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Hi Maya,
I read ur reply i really don't know in what situation you are, is it that he doesnot care for u at all you know we are the best judges of our life and we know what is going around us but we eep ignoring it, yoou said u eran more than ur spouse, here is the catch my friend if situation get worst wake him up tell him you want to leave just treaten him i know this won't happen but generally we Indian women love to be perfect i don't undersatnd why but really due to this we only make our self at our husbands disposal you know he should be insecure about you a little because once you start feeling that this person is not going to go anywhere thats were you start treating him like dirt, when he will ask you tel him what u wanted and what u got how all these years you have been supporting and giving in this relation, try tobe bold don't let him treat u bad, mine is also a love marriage i am punjabi my husband is Jat but in some places i have to make sacrifice i am also wokring but i make sure he and his family respect me for that...
all the best take care and chill out lovely replied. Hi
I am constantly reading all the posts from this section.i also have posted my problem here and get the answers but u know its very hard to handle the situation when ur life partner is at the other end.....
i think marroage itself alone is issue its not related with love or arranged...
because at the end only we ladies have to face and manage everything whether its job,family,houshold work everything..sometimes i think ...then whats the use of husband(please dont misunderstand me but...)i mean if they cant even fulfilled us emotionally ....rest leave ......
but again hope for the best.do ur job and try to be happy...if possible.
(its only my view i am just sharing with u)
all the best Maya replied. Hi Sangini,
You may be right, we Indian woman try to be perfect in all aspects be it house hold works, office or child care. I have already threatened my husband number of times that I am going to divorce him. Then he behaves normally for one or two days, weeps in front of me, praises me or above all makes love which is very frustrating in that condition. This time also he did not eat anything for the whole day was very sad and then came to me and said sorry and kept on saying that he will not behave like this in future even he made his parents to say sorry to me . So I forgot everything again but there is some deep bruise in my heart I no longer trust him or feel comfortable in front of his parents. I feel like an outcast. But honestly speaking I do commit mistakes , as I have already said I have very bad temper and I am very blunt and straight forward I say what ever I feel ( which proves against me most of the time ) .
Well thanks for the suggestion and all the best to you . BTW where do you live and who else is there in your family what is your nature of job? Sorry for too many questions
Regards,
Maya