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Hi
I am having problem from my sil. She doesn't respect anyone but suspects. She uses harsh words at everyone and expects them to be friendly in turn. First i was hurt, but later learnt to ignore her comments and to interact with her normaly.

The problem is she finds fault with everyone and doesn't even hesitate to cross check if her acquisitions are true! She complains to my husband and spoils his mind. Because of this my husband is not able to interact freely with any of my relatives.

I can tolerate her but how can i ask my sibligns to do that. They have their own family, how can their spouses tolerate my sil? When they tell me about how much disrecpect she shows to them, i feel dejected. Neither her nor my mil tell a word of thanks to my relatives, though they have been receiving a lot of physical help from my family. When it comes to finding fault they do it immediately.

My side is a close knit family. I never had any conflicts with any of my sil (brothers wife) till my marriage and even now. We had many cheerful moments. Now I feel like i am cut from my family since my marriage.

Whenever my sil complains to my husband, he gets unpset and angry! My husband is a nice person. I feel sorry for him, but i too like to interact with my siblings as i was doing before my marriage.

She expects us to instruct others as how to interact nicely with her. Whenever some misunderstandings come in a family, we can solve that by discussing with the concerned person. Instead of doing this, if we talk ill of them and invite a third person's interference, how can one feel like interacting with her.

MY sil is married and has nobody from her husband's side to interact with. So she says she wants to interact with my family. It looks like she doesn't know how to make and keep relationships.

Now how can i make her to realize her mistakes!! Same here replied. I have exact same issue with my SIL.
She hates me from the day one. She has created grief for my sister and now me and my wife. Unfortunately nobody can improve her. My brother is not much help. How to tackle this situation? I love my brother very much and getting seperated from him is out of question.