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We are living abroad. One of my friends told what she did in India during her vacation. She is actually well qualified and working here in a good job. Since marriage, they have done a lot for the husband's parents. Now, Her inlaws started tauting her, shoted at the son and insulted her parents for no good reason after a few days of their arrival. My friend quitely packed her bag and went to her parents house and stayed there . Straight away walk out from that spot. She directly boarded the flight back from India from her parents house. My friend had earlier told her husband that if such things happen, this is what she will do. Her husband had also supported her. Her hubby stayed back in his parents house for the rest of the vacation , while my friend stayed with her parents. Both have a good understanding. My friend says how can we put up with such talk and listen like dumb people ? So, instead of arguing or giving back , she decided to move from that place, so that her inlaws will realise that abusing her will only make matters worse. I am almost in the similar situation. What shall we do , when our one month vacation starts becoming a nightmare ? Should we argue with inlaws if they pick up a fight with u ? or should we just go like my friends way ? or should we accept all they say and be the meek and quite DIL staying back with inlaws ? Once we give in to their scoldings, we can never raise our voice. At the same time, inlaws are after all hubby's parents, old people. and again nobody in this world esp inlaws should have the right to insult my parents however aged or sick they are . Friends, please advice.I am little confused. Please share your feelings too. uuu replied. shilpa, r u feelin guilty ? sumas replied. Your friends husbands supports her.so there is no problem.for my first vacation in india after my marriage.i went alone stayed fo 1 month and planned to bring my inlaws to US for 6 months stay.i thought anyways iam spending here 6 months with them so why dont spent 1 month with my mom.so i dind go there.they were quiet on the flight.but have already filled my hubby ears through phone and after comming all of them blasted me.and the whole 6 month was a bitter one.if that time i packed up and come back to my parents or for my next vacation i dind go and stay at their place my hubby will divorce me.i have 2 small kids now i cant take any desparate steps now.
if my hubby have supproted me then thing would have been different.