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Hi, can someone please show me the way? my husband is behaving very weirdly nowadays. we live in the states. my mother has come to stay with us and even though she doesn't do anything, he claims that he feels she is trying to break us up!! we have a 2 yr old and I am now pregnant with the 2nd one. every time we fight he says that u can take a divorce and take the kids and go. he claims that since my family has already gone thru one divorce (my sister got div and remarried), it wouldn't be a problem for my parents. he wants me to take his side even if he is horribly wrong and disrespectful. he behaves like this with his parents also and does not talk to his siblings. he was nice before but after my son was born, his behaviour has progressivel become bad. he feels that by getting GC he has done something really great. I don't really care, i want to settle in India in future. he is very anti-social doesn't like getting friends over etc, also he is an atheist. I don't know what to do. he fights even though i am pregnant. i am not working now as it is not possible but he claims that i am a delicate darling and i should work. i had a difficult 1st pregnancy... now i am scared for the 2nd one and i am seriously thinking of what to do for the future....please help!!!!! joseph replied. hi siya,

i just want to tell you that, when i read your post it looked like as if my wife has written this. Unfortunately, you are facing the same crisis as my wife is !!!! I mean \";exactly\"; the same. Her mother came to stay with us while she was pregnant (she delivered only last month). I also feel that her mother is disturbing our good (cant say best) 3 yr old married life !! I have a lot of negative feelings for her parents. My wife says I was nice before but only after she got pregnant i changed !! According to her (i also think so) I am progressively becoming a bad husband and not at all a good father!! We had lot of furious fights when she was pregnant !! She also worked throughout her pregrancy. I am also not a social person and am atheist. I would have been certain to conclude that you were my wife writing her woes on this board, had you not been in US and this wasnt your second child!!

I feel exactly the same as your husband does. My suggestion would be to send your mother back to India and spend your time with your husband, After all whatever bitter he tells you about your parents, certain amount of truth would be there? isnt it? And to add to the matters, your mother will be reinforcing your belief that your husband is no more a good man, is that right? I would say no body is to blame, neither you, nor your parents, and nor your husband. Send your mother off and you will see how things improve.

I think we can discuss this in detail, I need to solve this problem for myself also, if you want then i can give you my email address. I do believe that at the core of the heart you dont want your relations with your husband to spoil? right? so doesnt he, (trust me). and he is as worried about this state of affairs as you!!