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hi,

My husband tells me that all males feel a strong urge to put their organ into some hole and most preferred one is that of a woman. And he argues that there should be a corresponding urge with women also, they should strongly desire a mans organ to be inside them. According to him this should be the basic instinct in humans so that sex can be performed.

I myself dont feel any urge of something entering me not even a finger (mine or his). I want to ask friends out here, whether his argument holds or not? me me replied. Sex drive is caused by a hormone called testoserone which is abundant in males and nearly zero in women. You can verify this from any biology textbook. This is why generally women have only a fraction of the sex drive as men. Women have just enough sex drive to get pregant when they want, but not to enjoy sex like men. So your situation is perfectly normal!! happy-helper replied. Ha Ha Ha Ah it is all so clear now priya! No what you speak of is really quite normal... I thought you had meant you were lacking drive all together. Yes we women love to snuggle! Fomr what you explain I think everything is A-OK! happy-helper replied. Lack of sexual desire isn't all that uncommon in women but it is unusual that you have no desire at all. There could be an under lying cause and you should speak with your doctor. This can be very embarrassing but again you should think is this harming your relationship, are there alternatives you can offer your husband?

Also is sex not enjoyable for you? Is this the reason why you are disinterested in sex? Your husband and you could find some great books that have suggestions as to how you might increase your arousal so that your interest increases. I do wish you all the best in finding a remedy to this problem