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Dear Friends

Now the new year is about to begin.

I want to request a favour frm all the friends i have made here.
Will you all Please Please PRAY for me. I really want your sincere prayers.

This year I will go for hysterscopy to clear the polyp. Also im planning to go for IVF(ICSI). But I an so afraid...I just cant tell.In this year also i went for ICSI.But It was not successful. Infact it had to be discontinued just half way.This has left me high and dry.

For my this years iCSI to be success i please need good wishes and lots of prayers. Because as ull must be aware the success rates of such treatments are notr very high.One needs lots of good luck and blessing to be succesfilly pregnant withit and more so to deliver a healthy baby.

Im too very desperate to hav ea baby now.Right now im into depression. I get very anxious. And everyday i keep crying. All theses years i was facing it bravely. But now Its just not possible for me.

i will go for ICSI somewhere in April or may05 . It depends on when my husband is back frm his sailing.And for hyster may be in feb or mar05. anyways i will keep u posted .

I dont even feel like sailing with my hubby..Becacuse somehow i now come to beleive that i will not conceive naturally....any such thing will not happen to me. I didnt want to go for ICSI.i wanted it to happen naturallty. but i ihave no option

DEAR all who have been lucky to have a wonderfu; experience to conceive will u ll reaaly pray for me. i genuienly need it before i bresk down completely.
love sonia

sonia replied. Thank u all .....Pridu , Smile , vsh ,and above all anumita. Thanks a ton for ur positive words.

Anumitawhat a brave girl you are. in one of my last mails i said i will try to follow your footsteps. Yes i will be optimistic now on. I will not take things so negatively. Right u said when i trust god i have to completely offload my baggage with him . i admire u for writing such a long nmail. Thanks for bieng so there.
I hope best for u and vsh.
Anumita u said u will try this month. Do keep posted. I really hope to hear good news frm u . That will make me most happy to begin the year.
Dear vsh same goes for u too . all best wishes to u. u r also very brave . thanks for putting in the positive attitude into me. Ya i will ubdergo the treatment iwth full faith. hpoing this year brings good news to u.


lots of love vsh replied. Hi sonia,
I have been reading your posts since few days and i can understand your feeling and frustration.I am also going through the same problem over 4 yrs & already had 6 cycles of IUI& 1 IVF, needless to say all of them were unsuccessful. Planning to try another ivf this year. Go ahead with your treatment with full faith and hope for the best.
Never ever think negative. You are there in my prayers.

Best wishes
vsh Anumita replied. Hi sonia,
I read your message. Please don't think sooooooooooooooooo negatively. I understand your mental status. belive me I share your pain. I am also trying for past many years but no success. One IVF faeld and again I am going for second one.
Having a baby is the most wonderful thing for any couple. But not all are so lucky in this world. We have to understand this and have to make peace with this. We can only try. Success or faliure is all in God's hands.
I and my husband are simulataneously exploring the possibility of adoption. Infact we have applied in few agencies.
Sonia, count your blessings not your hardships.
The other day I was feeling blue about not able to have a baby naturally, but when I think of those mothers who had to loose thier children in latest Tsunami diaster, I was so overwhelmed and felt luckey to be safe, alive and woth my loved ones!
Sorrows and happiness are the state of mind and it affects all our bodiy functions. So if you are preparing to go for IVF, please fill your mind with happy and optimistic thoughts.
By the way, two days only I saw in news that a 55 year old lady had triplets thru IVF. So if she can be blessed why ca't us??
I believe in Sai Baba. Sai Baba says, you should have two things. \";shradhdha\"; and \";saburi\";. That means, \";Trust\"; and \";Patience\";. If we have these two, He will listen to our prayers.
Baba also says, if you believe in me, if you trust me, than DON'T WORRY. Its like if you have a heavy baggage and you are carrying in on your shoulder. But when you trust in God you get a train. Now if you are in a train, you should put that baggae on the floor and sit comfortably, but even in the train if you decide to keep that baggage on your shoulder then who is to be blamed!!
Trust in God is like a train and our worries is like heavy baggage. If we trust him, we should stop worrying about when it will happen, how it will happen. Just have faith and patience and IT WILL HAPPEN ONE DAY!
Also, see int his world , you will find even less fortunate people all around you. Think of those and be thankful that you have a better life.
God has thoght of something for every living being. Hamare liye bhi kuchh to soch rakha hoga. When rright time comes, we wll also be blessed by a baby.
And God forbid, if nothing is successful, we can adopt and give all our love to some child who really deserves affection and a family!
Don't listen to any comments about not having a baby. Just indulge yourself in any entertaining job. Read, do agrdening, take up some volunteer work, join any hobby class, cook, watch TV...but please please don't be so negative about going thru IVF.
Remember, WE CAN ONLY TRY. REST EVERYTHING DEPENDS ON GOD!
I will pray for you. and I am sure all those women reading your messages will pray for you.
Take care and don't be depressed.
Anumita