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Hi all,
My MIL is dominating. She interferes in anything & everything we do. My family(my hubby,kids & I)live in US right now. My MIL gets on my nerve even when we visit her for few days once in a year. She involves in everything that my hubby wears starting from him wearing underwear to which & how many pillows he uses b4 going to bed with me. She turned our house upside down when she visited our house in US. She wants everything her way. She even interferes in how I take care of kids, how I feed my kids( My kid almost stopped eating veggies while we were there). She is the most miserly person u can find on this planet. She even advises me abt how to stir the curry whether clockwise or anti clockwise. She makes an impression that she worked all day in front of my hubby & everyone else. She gives me burnt snacks,leftover rice & does everything that irritates me. She yells at me if I don't listen to her. Once when we had an argument, my hubby supported his mom.
Now, my DH wants to move back to India for good next year & I already started getting nightmares. He says its his duty as a son to look after his parents. I have 2 girls & when I ask him who will look after us when we r old since acc to them, parents shouldn't stay with daughters once they r married, he says its out fate to be alone. I can't stand her even for an hour let alone spending eternity with her. She actually acts more like a jealous lover than like a loving mother. Is there any remedy for this?I feel so sick when I think of her.I get these cringes in my stomach when I even think of her.FIL is a nice person.& SILs sometimes take their mom's side by saying indirect remarks on me. This is my story.Pls advise.
swati replied. i am not sure if u work or not. if u can (don't know your visa status in US), pls try getting a job and in the worst case if u do move to India continue working. I mean get a job in India- send the girls to daycare. Or try enrolling yourself in a course to further your education in the US. Once your husband sees extra income, he might change his mind and u can always say that u have a good job and there r lesser opportunities in India. Plus, if the need arises start sending money (100-200 per month) to MIL once u get a job. U know miser people would love to get extra cash. Don't be frank with your husband abt your feelings on moving to India or even the inlaws. Glad to hear that FIL is nice - atleast they dont team up together. Its just one mind. Just try different tactics. This is all I can think of now. Good Luck!