Parents of Preschoolers  Discussion Forum

hi friends,

I am mother of two kids girl and boy. My boy is almost 5 years and girl is 2y 6 months only. My boy goes to the school and in the kindergarden and my daughter has just started going to the school and she is in nursery.

I am also working. and my husband is also busy in his works and his job included lots of overseas travel. Even i also travels but till now we planned our trip so that it should not clash with each other. We make sure that one out of us should remain with the kids. At home also we prefer to spend quality of time with the kids and till now i know (also talking to teacher) that both my kids are happy child.

Now i got a opportunity to go to the Europe for one whole year. Ofcourse my husband encourage me a lot. I have a full time maid to take care of the family and their work. As i am not based in India, I called my mother to be with the kids. But i will keep comming every 3 months time for 15-20 days.

My kids are very cooperative, as teacher says that they are well behaved kids. My husband is a perfect father and really take care about emotions of kids. I am sure that may husband will also take care of them perfectly and also i had a talk with thier teacher she said that she will send me the progress report to me in europe and she is even ready to chat with me on this issue.

But i am afraid that my away from children my intereup thier personnel development? I am worried....

Does anybody face the similar problem.

Please advise.


nicemom replied. hi doll,
i have a 2 yrs 10mths daughter. she has always been with both her parents till recent. we stay in the u.s. and when my hubby went to india for 3 weeks she was very stressed. in the evenings, when she was used to seeing her dad, she would start crying ..\";i want my daddy, now\";. her behavior also changed. sudden tantrums and when i used to talk to her in a high tone(even little), she used to scream back saying i want my daddy...which she never didi when he was here in the u.s. we used to chat everyday and also saw eachother on the web-cam but this didn't satisfy her little heart.

this happened b'coz she was not used to a single parent at any time of her life. tho' even i had called my mother here...but she felt the space for her dad.
i will not at all discourage you to lose the opportunity to go to europe....you go girl!!! but keep in mind that your 5yr old may accept it and knows that mom is there for him and will be back soon but not your 2 1/2 yr girl. seeing my experience i can just let you know that they still don't gett he situation no matter what the other parent or grand parent does.

if you are ready to handle a little of the seperation anxiety they are going to go through..go ahead. time will fly soon and things will be fine. and as you say you will visit them every 3 mthly. but thats also a long time for these little angels, you know !!
all the best and i hope you take the decision best for you anf your family.

write back when you get a chance.