Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi all.i used to be a regular here but went into deep depression for 2-3 months.........married for 10 years and trying and trying for the baby is all i' ve done for all those years.........faced harsh comments,insensitive people........it got to me finally........i went into a shell and one day i realised that my getting depressed is making those people happy and giving them sadistic pleasure and just doing me and my husband harm..........so i' ve decided to put my life on track and start the process again with positive appraoch again .I' m going for ICSI this month and need all ur support..........please pray for me.
AND........for those who are in depression......ur depression only harms u and u alone....nobody else.......infact people who are responsible for depressing u,only get pleasure out of it............therefore.....DONT GIVE THEM THAT PLEASURE AND BE STRONG.....do it for urself and the poeple who love u...........ALL OF US WOULD BE WINNERS IN THE END..........i PROMISE EVERYONE THAT..take care all of u ........best wishes.lots of love and hugs. lux replied. hi Frnds

the samething happenned to my wife, i everytime console her not to take tension but she always replied i m not tensed, dark circles has come over her eyes, i give her love , caring and everything which is in my control but life is life she always play and took exam of good people whenever she plan to moved to her Parents house she everytime discuss with me that neighbour will asked me every year, r u having something ...

i understand her felling but i m helpless i can not see her tears as i love her very much she understand this but everytime she tell me when i will give u a happiness because all IUI has failed from last 6 years...
it is really a hard for me to come out from that type of situation i said for evryone, it is difficult to face some situation currently i m in office i think if i discussed more the bridge will break out and tears will take their way to meet earth.






ruvi replied. Hi Rene,

I' ve joined this gp only few days before. I' m also sailing in the same boat. Married for more than eight years without a baby, I' m running in deep depression with nothing falling my way. Even I find myself contemplating suicide sometimes......phew!!!!!!!!! juss wanna share some thoughts with you with a hope that it' ll help relieving some tension out of my mind. I' m a god fearing human being but sometimes when I see somebdy pregnant or even hear that somebdy has had conception, I go into deep shell and start sulking for not be able to perform a very natural function of reproduction. I even question GOD for what wrong I' ve done that I' m getting this emotional and physical punishment. My husband gives me all his love n support...even telling me that he doesnt want a baby...all he want is to see me happy and contended. But here I am....so sad n so depressed..that even when I realise that I' ve got few gr8 things in life...like a loving n caring husband n Ma-in-law....I stop appreciating these real important things of life.
Thanx a lot for sharing your thoughts and listening to me patiently. plz. tell me ' bout your experiences with ICSI. I wish you all success n all pleasures of parenthood. Do keep in touch....your experiences ' ll be very helpful to me. If possible, plz. tell me from where you' r undergoin treatment.

take care
mlk replied. Very glad you can get out of it. There are many ways to have kids, one day for sure you will have your loving kids. Best wishes and take care. Diva replied. Hi Rene,

Happy for you & your positive attitude.
All the very best. My wishes with u.....

Diva SP replied. Rene, rightly said/doing/done. Amazing recovery from you. My hearty wishes for a success to you. Be confident and always try to be happy whatever the situation may be. Take care and best of luck.