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is anybody here a parent of single kid,who can tell me is it difficult to bring them up.i have a 3 yr old son,and dont plan to go for second issue,but i dont want my son to grow up with the feeling of loneliness...can sumbdy help Priya replied. Hi Namratha,
You asked a very valid Q... I too am a mother of a 3and 1/2 yr old son and sometimes think the same!
Frankly this modern society ..Nuclear family has both pros and cons.
I have a brother and no sister .. even then I get lonely attimes and wish so much I had a sister with whom I could share my worries .. happiness etc.
I do have cousins but everyone busy in their own world and not everything can be shared with cousins !
But atleast have a brother who visits me often .But wonder who will my son have to visit ? whose place will he go when he is bored ? He needs to develop good friends .. and depend on them !
So I think having 2 kids is good .. but as someone said .. 2 doesnt necessarily mean they are for each other . As they grow up .. they may not like each other . When they have their own families they may not be there for each other !
In my case ..My hubby has strictly said NO for a second child. So my choice to have or not have is already decided by him.
Its tough decision given the busy life we lead !
Priya anon replied. i agree that kids shd hv company while growing up etc etc....i am an only child.till now i haven't faced that problem. i too hv 1 son.
my point here is if siblings start fighting with each other when they grow up, get married, & fight for property etc. how as a parent how will you cope up in your old age? i am speaking from experience...seen with my close relatives & old parents suffering & saying that we wld hv been better off with 1 kid. whats the point in hving more than 1 kid only to fight lateron.i am not generalising, just another point of view. Jyoti replied. Hi Namrata,

Depends where you live and if your child has cousins and how close they are. However, as time goes on, more than likely, everyone move away and it becomes more and more neclear -- mom, dad, children. so if it is just one child, more than likely he'll only have parents to play with and no one to grow up with (unless you have a really good neighborhood, friends, relative) circle where the child can develop close relationship.
However, i think that if it is two then the two siblings can grow up together and they'll always have someone they grew up with even after parents age and pass away. Otherwise, once you die, your child will have no immediate family of his own.

Just my thought, but all children grow up fine. I have just seen it with my cousins -- who are single child, they get bored home alone. However, when we all lived together it didn't matter much, but now that everyone is away, single children are alone and no matter how much i want, it is hard for me to keep in touch with my cousins. it's not so difficult with my own brother.