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Why do so many people on this message board give advice and say if you don't want to use birth control, condoms or such, then you can have your man come out...meaning that he can ejaculate outside of you.

I don't know what anyone has heard but from what I know that doesn't make a difference because men pre-ejaculate. And in that sperm there are enough swimmers that could reach your egg and impregnate you - depending on how much pre-ejaculation there is and how fertile you are or whether your ovulating etc.

I would ask your doctors about this before trusting in my word or anyone elses on this fact but this is what I have heard.

The best method to not getting pregnant is not to have sex. But of course, you are married and want to have sex. But, if you don't want to get pregnant then you have to use some form of birth control---pills, condoms, depo shot, patch which is fairly new, female condoms etc etc. Or just take your chances and realize that if it happens then maybe it is meant to happen.

I don't want to anger or upset anyone. I just have a feeling some of you are misinformed. Then again, I am open to being the one who is misinformed.

All the best to everyone. guess what replied. Just want to let you all know that me and my husband have been using the pull out method for years, and just about amonth ago we were making love and he used the pull out method and I guess he must of precum inside me, but he didn't realize it or feel it and when he was ready he pulled out and guess what I am pregnant. I talk to the doctor and told him the method we use and he said it can happen. So I agree with the first post that be very careful even if you are using the pull out method. NJ replied. LA you r absolutely right.

probably some ppl donot like fact, or dont dare to accept the fact. These ppl are so confident of their knowlwdge that they will prove even doctor wrong, so dont get angry...

u and ur doc r very much correct. Keep it up !

Let these ppl be happy with their half knowledge.

-NJ LA replied. And let me clear this up for you, I used the word premature ejaculation in the last post - probably because I just read what one of you have said. I mean to say pre-ejaculation which I said in my original post - not precum or premature cum - but the discharge of sperm that happens before you have a complete orgasm and let go completely of the rest of the sperm and such.

And you may think I am insane and don't know what I am talking about but I am only informing ppl (mainly women) of the misinformed information these men in their lives are giving them. LA replied. I don't know what doctors are recommending this but I wouldn't want them to be my doctor.

I am not confusing anything. I have said that premature ejaculation happens before you pull out. Did you know that in one ejaculation there are over 3 million sperm.

Anyway, I still disagree. I would say that I don't believe that doctors could be telling you that by pulling out before ejaculation that you could not get pregnant because like I said, what about preejaculation.

PS - I know ppl who have gotten pregnant in this case. And don't tell me that the man didn't do it right or whatever. No, the fact is that preejaculation and the fact that men can't pull out at the exact time they cum and not expect to leave anything inside the woman.

I would talk to a real person and a good doctor before making wrong assumptions.

I wrote this message because of men like you who don't believe you can get pregnant this way, and who would influence women to believe this.

Now, I do believe there is less of a chance of pregnancy but the chance is still there nonetheless.
AJ replied. Yo D LA
What the hell you're talking about that if we pull out over vigina then sparms can swimm and you can get pergenant depanding upon how fertile someone is that's what you mean! I got to see someone in the history of sex getting pergnant this way and that couple will make into guniss book of world records,are you freaking kidding.

I don't know who the hell is your doctor, Man all the doctors in this freaking world recomond this if you don't like or don't want to be on birth control then learn to pull out once you reach your orgasm get that.
Only time it's possible if
someone vigina is like a pool and ovary are hanging out and what the hell is this if you don't want to get pergnant then don't have sex, why in the world people get involve into relationship to have sex and shere intimate moments and so on it totally depand on people how they want to prevent themself not wanting to have babys some people are not comfortable with \";Pills, Patchs and other products\"; and pulling out is another alternative usally doctors recomond only thing you've to be carefull about if you're not on anything not to come in.
Just to let you know precum and premature ejaculation are two diffrent things.
And finally good luck not getting pregnant your way and we're very well informed and we know what we're doing

Good freaking luck doctor!
Neil replied. Dear LA
I think you're mixing up permature ejaculation, with percum what people are saying is to pull out and relese it over vigina and,I don't see your point how you can get pregnant doctors recommend that too,
I think you need to do more investigation about this matter.

Good luck