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Hi all,
I am married for the past 2 years, and am carrying our first baby now.
I have a peculiar problem. I am one of the kind who requires constant care and attention, but my husband seldom shows love or affection. Else, I will have to go behind and make him express love. I know he has a lot of love within, but what can I do to make him express it?
I feel very sad, when he completely avoids me at times.
Please help.
Regards,
A sad wife. s replied. if ur hubby doesn't show his love to u then u can ask him for it that now u need him more tell him that u feel sad, but if he will talk and love u more u 'll feel better and the kid will feel good too. LA replied. And P.s. I don't mean to offend any men by saying sadly enough he is a normal man, in the sense that he is not as emotionally expressive. And it is only sad for the women who love them :) LA replied. Well I do sympathize with you. You say you need constant care and attention and I am taking that to mean that you are emotionally demanding and not physically sick or in need.

That being the case, it sounds like you are a normal woman and sadly enough, he is a normal man. Most women show their emotions, love and affection easier and more often than men. Men, when they show it, show it with as much intensity, if not more, than women, it's just they don't express it as often.

My suggestions are
1) Express to him that you would like if he would talk to you more, hold you more etc. Continue being your expressive self with your wants and needs.
2) Don't pressure him too much about expressing himself. I have learned that they do love you just a s much as you love them, they just show it in different ways. Try to acknowledge his times and ways of expressions of love.
3) Also, I myself am currently with child and noticed that I am even more in need of attention and affection than I was previous to being pregnant. It is the hormones as well as the general good feelings about your new family. I am sure you are feeling good and want to share this feeling even more with your husband, I am feeling the same. Express this to him and tell him that especially due to being pregnant you are wanting to have him hold you and comfort you more often. Hopefully he will be more understanding and do that for you.

Good Luck