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Joint Family:husband not understanding at all, MILs puppet
2006-09-01
Name: Distrubed Wife and Mother



I am married for almost 3 yrs . have a lovely active 1.4 yr old baby.Arranged Marriage. Like all MILs , my MIL too started her acts after 2 mths of our marriage. After that it is as if she has done some black magic on him that he just believes in watever she says. And anything that I say has no importance to him. His love and understand towards me has degraded over time. More so because he does notlike me supporting my parents monetarily, I had told abt this to him before marriage though. He has abused me and my parents a lot. He has directly hurted my parents by abusing them, calling them home for discussing all petty matters, MIL and SIL has made issues of everything and fill his ears so much against me and my parents. He has hit me and pushed me during my pregnancy, ill-trteated me and my parents a lot. he is short-tempered and doesnt not realise what he says when he is angry. but the point is he gets angry only on me and my parents like this and abuse us.
he is very money-minded person. Anything related to money, he will be vrey intersted. that is the goal of his life. but for me loving ,c aring, understanding is more important. I have stopped alomst speaking to him except for few things related to my daughter. he hardly touches me. i have communicated to him abt it, but he feels am nagging. Iam bored and feel depressed. the only happiness in my life is my daughter and am living for her.
FIL is a pupet in MIL hands in fact my hubby too s apuppet in her hands.
this is not at all tolreating. I am working and my MIL takes care of my dauhter. she doesnt even give her foods I as her to do. everything as per her chjoice. this has beenr eally upsetting me a lot over past few days. I cannot discss anything like this with my husabnd because he is not at all supportive to me and not at all understanding. if MIL ssys not to give egg-yolk to child he will believe in that.
Please advise as to how to make my husband undesratnd that i need his love and unerstading first. (he gifts me many thngs but he would expect me to gift him back too..else he would get angry). I wanted to give up work to b with my daughte but he doesnt want me to do that cos Mi and Him wants me to work. And I think even if I do that they wil itll--treat me more. I am in a jinx . i cannot take the extereme step of separating. But want my huband to relaise that he neds to respect me and my parents. and be loving and caring for me like he is for his parents and sister.
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2007-03-21
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Anonymous Name: seema
Subject:  bless u



shaina i dont think leaving husband will end all prob. iam an expecting mom even my husband is my mils puppet he too hit me and had bleeding during my pregnancy. even i think always this man is not worth living with. but when i think of divorce i cant proceed becoz iam not that good financially and iam sure ill not get custody of my child. just thinking of my unborn i keep quiet. i can just say wish that mils like taht should die soon.
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2006-09-11
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Anonymous Name: LAKS
Subject:  Hi



I totally agree with shaina....please for god's sake...dont fool urself, ask him clearly that is he changing himself and if no just live your life , dont waste it....life is percious and live it well
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2006-09-04
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Anonymous Name: shaina
Subject:  dont fool yourself.



answer lies with you.ask yourself if you really love your husband or has he really cared for you if his life if yes then its worth living with such a guy if not then let this bullshit pathetic and sadist husband of yours go to hell.live a life of your own
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