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Hi,
My son is 18 year old and studying in college. From last 7 months he is having an affair with a girl (from different college. We have caught them together at our house and since then they have agreed that it was a mistake and they will stop meeting each other. But since then from my son' s behaviour I dont think they have stopped meeting. Infact my son always tells a lie and will come home late or will go away sometimes from home. I guess he is still meeting her. But when I ask him he says No and all is over. He has also started stealing money from house. He doesnt listen to us and there is always fight in the house. Please suggest how can I stop him from having an affair with that girl? I am extremely worried. I have stopped going out and meeting people as I am afraid that he may bring her home or steal money. Janavi replied. Hi Vrush, this is the age when most of the girls and boys gets attracted to each other do no worry. Try to talk to him and make him understand about things he should understand. NN replied. See till the time you know that he is not crossing any limits or going out of the boundaries till then just let him be on his own and do what he wants because if you keep stopping him he will get more and more rebellious. Nitin replied. I think you should talk to him calmly about it. If you get angry he will revolt back. Make hi understand that you care about him and all you are saying is for his good and nothing else. See if he listens in this way. NN replied. See he thinks he is mature enough to make his own decisions and if you try bothering him constantly he will just keep rebelling more and more so instead of that sit quietly with him and have a normal conversation about it. NN replied. Its a phase that he is going through right now and you need to explain him all the possibilities of things that can happen in the future if he does not understand at a right time and get mature enough to handle his life. Myntra replied. Hello Vrush,
So you need to do some thing to cease the affair so that there will be tension free also I wish you would be so friendly to your son then it would be easy to make him free of that.It would be better for you. No Name replied. Hi Vrush P,
So your son has grown up now.First of all in these days people are talking to each other if that is friend ship its okay other then that means they may not know the value of it you need to explain its value as friend.I wish your problem will solve. payal raval replied. I agree with Rishab! Since your son is a major, harsh punishments wont work. Also, it is natural that he experiments at this age. However, about stealing and monetary things be very strict at home and don't have money or cards lying around. Don't tempt him or enrage him. Deal with him as you would deal with an adult. That helps in many cases. Rishab R replied. Hi! Since your son is 18, I would suggest that you dont come down too harshly on him. He is an adult now and will start experimenting with love and relationships. Lay down ground rules and speak with him about the stealing. However, the more pressure him to come out of the relationship, the more he is likely to be adamant about it. Also, keep an eye but dont be overly strict as to trigger a rebellion in him.