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Name: neha

SSi first of all I salute you for your will power because if there was any body in your place would have given up, but i feel you should stand for you and your kids I just read a post by you reagrding your family problems and read Bhavna's reply over that i really agree with her that u should find first a suitable job because self esteem is very important your husband is taking you forgranted, and so is his parents if they wanted him to stay alone with them then why did he get married to you, MY Dear Wake up its a wake up call for you , stop being a Sacrficing lady because sacrfice is not worth when no body is ready to achnowledge it, sorry please don't feel bad but i think your husband isn't worth it if he was nice he would have thought about his children if not about you how can he be so irresponsible to leave you at your parents place when he is also equally responsible for the kids
I have a few questions that u should ask yourself and your husband..
1) Is he not responsible for the upbringing of your children emotionally and financially and even physically.
2) Is he not denying this relation by only serving his parents and living a life od bachelor hood.
3)Is he your husband or \";distant relation\"; that he is coming to meet you and the children every fortnight for an hour or two.
4) What are his duties towards you and your children.
Ask him all this when he meets you put your records straight don't linger tooo long as you will just lower your self- esteem and even your qualifications because atleast you will be on one side of the water rather than lingering in the middle of the ocean where only what you can see is darkness and vagueness. You cannot live life waiting for him ask him sternly is ready to take you and the children back or not. Firstly from this you will come to know claerly where do you stand in his life and your life too, so that you can start a fresh, i know i may sound stupid but this is a fact i also know you have to children whom a father can leave but a mother can never make them your strenght live for them never attempt suicide again and from here you can start for your job and also land him in court so that her also takes responsibilty of the kids financially, and from this he might change also when he will come to know that you have made up your mind a setback is important for him as he is thinking whenever he wants you ae there But please request you try and stand for your self this will make him rethink and you are a women who ic educated try rise ..

Hope the best but by taking a stand in life you will know what top do sooner the better as how long can your parents support you they are too old and may be that is why they are scared they more you bend the more your husaband and in-laws will be stubborn, STAND WHEN YOU WILL STAND THEY WILL KNOW THEIR RIGHT PLACE and THAT TIME WHEN YOU TAKE THEM TO COURT THEY WILL KNOW WHAT THEY WILL HAVE TO TROUGH SOCIALLY AND FINACIALLY..

ALL THE BEST I HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU

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