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Hi all,
Here again is a story of mine.I have got a very unstable marriage life.Initially my inlaws created so much of problems in marriage from small things .Then it hurted my parents and me.that time my husband came to US after marriage,I was at inlaws place for some days and came here after some days. Even after that my IL keeps bugging for small things happened in marriage, I told all this to my hubby.He just says ok iwill tell my parents ,you do not worry.But i know he never hurts his parents and do not show their mistakes. I do not even feel like talking with them as they talkw very nasty . If I get angry on them and complain to my husband,he in return gets angry on me saying why i spoiled his mood. These people have spoiled my life and no body cares aboutit. Once i got so angry on him and talked very bad about his family in anger and now he is keeping those things in mind. I do not know what to do.
i am kinda loosing him.He do not care about my feelings and just want to run away from situation or let me handle it alone. I feel hopeless with these people.He is very nice person overall but when issue of his parents come,he just ignores.
We are going to return to india for good may be in a year. I do not know how these people will behave with me and my parents .I do not know how to handle and behave with such people di bh replied. Hey you need to take charge yourself. I am also married for 4 years and have similar bad experiences with in laws.So i have learnt to take charge by myself. I tried telling my husband but for every 100 things he wud mention 1 thing to his family.We dont stay with them. but still they try to control our day to day life from there. But once i gave them a big shock from then on even my husband thinks 2 times before telling me anything. same to in laws. no point telling husbands to be there for us. they will do it if we tell 100 different things and then react to their parents maybe once in passing conversation. there is nothing we women cannot tackle. so try standing up for urself. start by small things in short duration u can even tell your in laws what u like and what u dont like about them. neha replied. You know ana we women of today are very strong just need a start and believe me you will be very happy, love your self and your husband....

HAVE A HAPPY LIFE NEHA replied. Hi ana just read your post my dear just enjoy the time you are having with your husband give him agood time and you too don't stress on these things what his parents said about your parents etc. becasue this will end you no were and just depressed all the time first win his trust and live with him then he will understand you, husbands are not wrong because for us it takes some time to be a family, they are still the sons of their parents and spent so many years with them how can they hear about them from us.

And more over you should build a beautiful relation with him in this year before you go to India i think you are alone with your hubby take this time as an opportunity to love him make him addicted to you, and don't say anything against his parents until they really making some big fuss and about these tit bits that they said this to your parents and you don't focus too much it will just sore your realtions with him you said he cares for you and is a nice person take this time a an opportunity give so much love that after some time he will automatically listen to you.

One more things these small gossips and fights go on in every house GHAR GHAR KI KAHANI if we keep grumbling and fight for our rights we will always keep reagreting i too had small issues and use to grumble but now i have learnt too just minc my words and keep shut times to gain my husband and believe it worked,because after some you will raelise for Family is noone more than YOU, YOUR HUSBAND AND CHILDREN and not even his parents or yours... SO just Chilll