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Hello , Since my 21/2 Yr old is going to Daycare, He has become very agreesive,throwing everything in his hand, does whatever you dont want him to do(does it as soon as you say NO), and shouting, going down crying when he does not get something he asked for...He was always a well behaved , quiet , Intelligent kid... and this behaviour is a shock for all of us... Here a brief overview of his life events ....My kid was with Grand parents for a year and a half after his first birthday in Canada. I went back and stayed with him for a month in India and we all travelled back to canada along with grand parents...

Now,after a couple of months in canada, I put him in the daycare(I work). Since he is going to daycare, his behaviour changed... I comprhend this as , he is upset/angry all day thinking that i left him alone in the daycare (where he does not speak english yet) and as soon as he comes home, he expresses it by being rude, and irritable...

What suggestions do you give me? I work all day, have to take care of dinner, next day's lunches etc, and with his irritable behaviour , i am getting stressed out and want to just hit him... I am going away from him and he is getting closer to my parents(as he is always close to them)

Please advice? Anybody gone thru the same situation before? VB replied. U have mentioned that he is getting close to ur parents..does that mean that ur parents are living with u in canada??If so then why are u leaving him in a day care?Are they working too??If u have even 5% chance to keep ur child at home please do so...send him to a day care only if u have no ohter option.

Also spend time to find out how the day care operates??how are they handling new kids...are they being compassionate??or leaving him to cry his eyes out..and calm down by himself...

i understand life in Canada is difficult and that both need to work...but i think u shld put ur priorities clearly efore urself...u cannot jeopardise ur child's future..we do hear lots of horror stories about day care..esp in the west..

Please take more care of ur child..he needs u more now than later in his life..don't get so overloaded with daily chores...owis the time to enjoy with ur child...later on when u have time (ie when u are old) for them they won't look back at u..

And pleaseeeeeeee don't hit him.
siree replied. Hello,
This is very common I guess.My son is 25th month now.Just he was doing like you said.He started just after his 2nd birthday. So from 4 days onwards I was spending my whole day with him. Now he is not crying, He is not laying on the floor. I got good result with that. Try that. gaurangi replied. one child,5 yrs of age, in my center, imply doesn't want to implement ANY instructions given by the teacher,whatsoever...what to do?He misbehaves all the time,nothing affects him.Pl.help. Anu replied. Hi K Manchi,

This is a very normal behaviour of a toddler. Since he doesnt meet his family members throughout the day he gets frustated and does all kinds of such things to get your attention. Getting attention is the only intension behind such behaviour. Even my child behaves in a similar fashion when I go late from office(he is 4 now). They always react in such a way since they dont get that love & pampering throughout the day. He just misses me. So dont worry just play with him for some time when he is home so that he feels pampered.