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hi friends,
yesterday i had been for a society meeting with my mother in law. There was a young man from the society who spoke quite a lot bout the society's problems. My mom in law- went home half an hour before the meeting could get over. While i was on my way back after the meeting got completed, i asked the young man what was his name and where did he stay? he answered my question. After I came back home, my mom-in-law was also talking bout the same man and wanted to know who he was. it told him his name and where was his house. Now listening to this conversation, my husband got bugged up at me and when we came to our room..he started telling me..being a married woman y did i bother to ask the other man what was his name and where did he stay. he go furious on me and started pointing out at my character. Even I got bugged up at him and told him that there was absolutely no reason y i asked him his name and that too i told his name and place of stay in front of mom-in law and father--in-law ..had i done anything wrong i would have hesitated to tell all this in front of the elders. But he wants me to admit that i was wrong and that i shall discontinue talking like this. That has hurt me a lot and i m not talking to him for last 15 hrs and i dont feel like also...becoz he is showing me a distrust. m i right or wrong?...pls reply soon Munish replied. Hi Rita,..
first of all I must appriciate you all I men who all are envolve in this particular conversation regarding rita's doubt b'coz all you are reacting as what you all are..I am really very happy to see the real peopel over the cyber word first time..great..

Well over to Rita...if you will see you wording at your own I hope you doubt will be clear there n then..but for that you hv to belive yourself on the top..so if you are ready to belive your self then now see your own statement \"; That has hurt me a lot and i m not talking to him for last 15 hrs and i dont feel like also...becoz he is showing me a distrust. m i right or wrong?\"; so if you will see at part where you are telling all others tht what you are feeling..all about....thts the only solution for your doubts...see if you belive tht you are right then what so ever you are feeling tht too is right..so do what you feel like..cos you are right and thts the only right way..but if then also its not ok with you then you must tell this feeling of yours to your hubby there n then..as what you are feeling...because what every you hubby was feeling tht he had told you very clearly..and he is acting like tht so its better to tell him too what you are feeling..and let the time decide for next move..and let it go like tht till tht time..

Ihey I am so sorry guys/gals..if its makes you feel boring....but I am not.

I am no where and if I am somewhere rthen might be in your feelings....hv a nice time..to you all..

geetha replied. Mr. Akash
First of all, I didn’t say I won this argument!!!! That’s the opinion of other ladies.. They are just supporting me & encouraging me as they think I’m correct..

I don’t know what kind of a person you really are nor I'm interested in judging you now.. But your replies here are leaving an impression on us ladies that you are just trying to trap girls. Lt me tell you this, it’s not at all our fault... its your own replies that made us believe so.. I don't rule it out that it could be possible that you are expressing yourself wrongly here..

But I’m sure, you definitely are giving “wrong advices” here & pushing them more towards trouble!!!!!!! Your opinion of ‘symbol of love’ is totally wrong.. may be that’s your ideology..

But as you said, you can have your own ideas & move on with them. If you really are a nice person, I guess I can suggest you something here... Watch out, your replies here are leaving a wrong impression & making others think of you cheaply..

One more thing, I think there isn’t any wasting of space here as this is a place to share our opinions & get them corrected if we are wrong. That’s what message boards are for. But let me tell you something, your messages all over the site that you are very busy are really nothing but \";waste of space\";..

I’m not at all interested in continuing this argument either nor I would try make you understand that your ideas are wrong.. because I know very well it’s nothing but waste of my precious time!!!!! Good Luck
geetha replied. Hi rita
I think you don’t have to apologize for anything. That may give him the wrong impression that he was right in being jealous. Little incidents like this happen in marriage. He is talking to you.. right? Just forget this episode for now. Once everything gets back to normal, you can tell him nicely that he needs to build trust on you. Good Luck Rita & just be happy all the time.

One more thing, regarding Akash, I totally agree with you.


siri replied. rita,
talk to ur hubby straight and tell him what u did wasn't any mistake.that will solve the problem.don't listen to akash.i think that person has gone mad. Akash replied. hi,

from what u did i would say you are not at all wrong....but i think u arent very good in knowing basic human tendencies...that ur hubby got bugged up with you for behaving like this is a very good sign for you....shows that he loves you a lot so maybe he feels insecure and jealous...

what u did when he questioned you about te guy is where u went wrong...u should have folded your hands,.....given him a kiss on the cheek and assured him that it was just on impulse u sked for his name and that ther was nothing brewing....the kiss andthe pology would have done the job....marriage is all about adjustments and forgiving....if both husband and wife stand their own way and refuse to budge, the marriage never works....maybe u should now make it up to him and maybe a hug and kiss and an apology would do the job.

dolet me know if it worked.
regards,

akash