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I am in great trouble .dont know how to handle it .my in laws are behaving like our enemy or more then a enemy.Bcoz we(me ,my hubby& our son) have not raised a voice .we did all are duties we tried to make them happy all time.my husband is having 3 sisters and he is only one brother. mu inlaws belive a brother of 3 sister shld live for himself or for his family just for them and there darling daughters.we dt mind fulfilling our duties towards them but offcourse we also have right to live.
My hubby who is doing buissness with my fil from past17 yrs when he was in school,he did his graduation simultaneously with buis.he was not having single property or bank saving account till last 2yrs.inspite of he worked hard for and made all properties and assets which all is in his sisters and parents name.bfore our marrige when he was growing buisness he used to get 500 rs . as a salary or pocket money i dt wt.he never asked for more bcoz being a only son he thought its ok parents r saving for him only ultimately he going to get all. But after 6-7 yrs of marrige we realised that his parents are so greedy and tey will not going to give us single penny of his earning they will spemd in to there daughters he raised voice . because curtsey my mil my 2 SILs have already broken relationship with us 6 yrs back.And the middlle 1 is also is just for sake of sister bcoz we are trying hard for this one sister.Neways after spoiling lots of there own family my fil has ruined buisness too.
they have taken a loan from bank and mortgaged there 3 properties all 3 proper.. and whole buisnes were on my fil & mils name so the loan was also on there name .(this is call blessing and disguise)unfortunately they cldnt pay it .so case with bank become very difficult.my Fil has 1 lawyer bestfriend .He fought a case from our side and asked us not to worry .asked us to make false statements which will prolong the matter and later bank will negotiate with us in less amount.In a mean time me and my hubby always asked my Fil pls finish it all let us pay it slowly slowly or in any ways we will live oir life peacefully.but he always said dt worry nothing will happen,if anthing happen then i will be infront bcoz its on my name.(he is the greedy person.bcoz if we will pay bank there will be bit shortage of money for time being and my hubby wld asked to cut short expenses,we are already not allowed to spend single penny without his (fils) permission)mean while he still kept in touch with bank and kept negotiating abt things bcoz he belive in finish ald matters fast start new things dont waste time in this all.but my FIL is really difficult man.morover my MIL always pumped abt us all the time all relatives and all.
once when we asked my middlle SIL that why my MIL hates us she said \";she doesnt like you three(me ,hubby and ourson)still we did nt took it as her immature behaviour besides that was veryhurting statement.
Neways as 3 properties were my Mils and Fils name and there was case with bamk so we thought we will give these propeties to bank if any need require and lets buy something else for residing at that time we had major losses bcoz as everyone knows money stays only in peacefu houses not where all the time ppl r fighting.still we booked 2 luxurios flats in very good place .inspite of we were not in position of affording 1 .just for MIL bcoz she wont like stay with us.adjoining flats very difficultly.they were on me and my hubbys name.(bcoz my inlaws r not allowed to but property bcoz of bank)But after booking retaing them was such a diff job.we were not having money.and banks r dt prefer buisness nan for loan they avoids them.after lots of hard work and prayers we managed and got loan.
meanwhile my Mil made this statement \";i can live in any ashram but not with my sons family\"; my father in law bbecome really puzzeled.and then ultimately we lost the case againt bank and bank has ordered a degree.after this my Mil become bit soft bcoz mow she was really helpless .we have to vaccate these houses.
after facing lots of insult and pain(me and my hubby only not them)we(me and my hubby) have chosen 1 house in ncr for rent and they were still confused.one time saying to go there daughters house till the possesion of booked flats or buy a flat in some senior citizen society.dt get a shock !yes no money lots of crisis stil .again we tried to manage fo money and arranged a flat in seniorcitizen society(possesion was held after 7 mths).we booked it. then my Mil started its not necessary we will be happy there or bla bla..we booked 1 ordinary flat for rent till the possesion near seniorcitizen society..then after 1 day before of shifting they got bithpangs and said let us do 1 thing we will shift where u r shifting .we got a shock though we said ok .and we made them shift in a flat which we have chosen. And for a 2 week we both kept looking for a flat in same area where we made them shift.after 2 weeks we got one and we shifted.
Now new chapter in mean while bank has auctioned our both house.we both got upset i cried like anything.but my fil &mil were really indifferent with this all.
then he decided to go to his daughters house for change & from escaping form bank. A friend replied. why own parents become enemy of there sons= the simple answer is GREED FOR (usually) MONEY and POWER.
Vini,
just ignore his parents and try from now on to move forward as a family you, your hubby & kids...It is not too late.Think of this as a beginning and be supportive of your hubby in his ventures workwise and in business..But from now on Put your foot forward in all matters regarding your Inlaws & stay away from them as much as possible..
I would say it is better if you guys (you & your hubby & kids ofcourse) could find a job for hubby somewhere else far away or start a business in some other town or city & move out of the place you live in right now and just cut down the contacts with your inlaws.Get out of their eyesight.If they ever come visiting you make sure they only come seeking for affection & timepass not to meddle with any of your monetary matters..
I would say it is the time for YOU to Step in front and take some action to save your husband from more losses & grief.GoodLuck.