Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi new,
i must try all those tips you shared. anyways, i must tell you this.....my daughter is doing great in potty training suddenly. she is in a regular under-wear throughout the day and only in the night and when i go out do i put on pull-ups for her. she is so excited to wear the panty, that she co-operates well. this suggestion of making her wear underwear was given by her teacher in day-care. it worked...try it!!
my daughter is doing ok on food right now, touch wood. but she has her days!! very moody, sometimes she eats without a fuss and some other days i have a problem.
anyways, tell me, what did you think about the second baby? are you trying?
keep writing.

Hi nicemom,
First of all thanks for ur advice given to me under the title \"e ur advice needed\"e . I too am in the same dilema as urs. In my case i have a brother and a sister, and my hubby as well has 2 brothers. In my case its not pressure from anybody's side, but my husband has started hinting me that we could have another one as my baby is 3 yrs now. I am also in the same dilemma as urs as even my daughter is too demanding and adamant and still dosen't even knowto go poop in the potty though she pees, in spite of going to the day care. Each child varies from one another and ur daughter is nothing exceptional. As they say here in u.s. that kids should start eating themselves by the age of 2 atleast. Though my daughter eats on her own , u can imagine the mess she makes below and around her table and cleaning up the mess is a big pain for me as well and when i think to myself whether its really necessary to go in for another child most of the time my mind says only \"e no\"e and moreover even my bother and sister have only one kid and so i am somewhat convinced of the fact of having only a single baby. Even my husband is not very particular that he needs another one but sometimes he feels if we have another baby then my daughter will have a pal to play with at home and it would keep her busy.In ur case its high time ur daughter started eating by herself, She is old enough for that. Just leave the food on the table and let her eat , she ought to because she can't starve the whole day. Even my daughter learns it only the hard way but the results are worth it. Though we may feel sorry for her for the first 2-3 days, they will get used to the habit very soon. coming to the main point, in today's era all of us feel just one is enough, and it has its own pros and cons. If u feel u are happy with a single child , no problems and u can stick to ur decision as u urselves are only a single child to ur parents and u say that u don't feel the thirst for another sibling. On the other hand if u feel that ur daughter needs another siblings , u can very well go ahead as u are going to have ur baby only in u.s. and and its not going to be that traumatic as in india. Another point for u2think about is the help. If u are confident that u will have people around u to help u out with ur kid and ur newborn, then i don't think there is any more problem from ur angle. Its only u and ur hubby and most important only \"e u\"e who can decide whether u really need to go in the second or not. Just weigh up all the pros and cons that i have told u and decide. wishing u all the best .Keep in touch.

hi new,
thanks for the note. feels good to talk to people sailing in the same boat!! what kind of lunches do you give your daughter in day-care? when i feed her, i usually give her dal-rice. but when she is in the mood of eating by herself, she likes to pick on pasta ,fruits, etc. she doesn't like bread at all, tho' she loves to say that "i want a big sandwich, mama". she'll just nibble and "all done". give me some tips on food. my heart cries when she throws up and falls asleep empty stomach, so letting her go hungry is a bit too hard on me!! i know, everybody and even you say that it will just take a couple of days to get her eating by herself but.....!!
my daughter poops in the bathroom and sometimes pees too!! her teacher says not to put pull-ups in the house but just a panty!! i'm trying that now. it works.
my daughter wants a baby. she keeps asking me whether we can buy a baby from the store. luckily my friend is pregnant and i say we will go and visit her baby. a little while ago, i used to put the baby topic away from her by saying that when she starts peeping and pooping it the bathroom, she'll get a baby. so now everytime she does that, she say" mama,i'm a big, now i can get a baby?"
my hubby doesn't want a baby ver much. b'coz life was a big mess after my daughter. i didn't have the real urge for sex for all most a year. my entire attention was to the baby. our lives have come back to normal . now that our daughter is a little older we do a lot of fun stuff together as a family. i don't know whether all thats going to be the same. oops i'm just going on and on.....
talk to you later, reply