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Name: neeraja

Hi,

i don't mean to force my ideas on you.. but do think seriously & decide whether you want to stop at one child or have more.
I am writing from my own life experience. I am a 38 year old mom of a single child, a 13 year old son. I never regretted my decision. when people asked me when I was planning the next one, i used to get angry, it was none of their business. My husband & me never seriously discussed about planning another one. Our son never asked for a sibling. he was & is the center of our lives. Not until my sister, who is 6 years younger, had her second child about 9 months ago & sent me this cute pictures of the baby with the elder 3 year old, with the caption \"; i have a playmate \"; & another one with all 4 members of her family with the caption 'our family is complete\";!!

Well, it was a blow to me.. i started to browse all the websites to look for info & had the shock of my life!! A single child is a LONELY CHILD, no matter whatever we as parents do. i read reviews like being a single childin itself is a sickness!

i feel so helpless now.. i somehow convinced my 43 year old husband to go to the GYN for a check -up! got the scan & all tests done.. the results were good, the doc says people nowadays try for their 1st pregnancy after 40, especially in the westernised world.. but, am i prepared? definetley not! God alone knows when i will conceive, if i try after all these years! i cannot go back in time & give my son a sibling to make up for all the lonley years! the second one will be of no company to the elder one! i may end up with messing lives of all 4 of us, while the fear of whether my husband & me or either of us will live to see our kids settle down!! probably the younger will be a burden to the elder, if some tragedy would strike!!

Now I am going to India on a holiday next week, where my sister has already arrived form the US with her \";complete family\";!! i don'tknow how i am going to take it!

So, think well & decide while you still have time.

THIS IS MY ADVICE TO ALL PARENTS WHO ARE PLANNING OR HAVE ONLY A SINGLE CHILD & STILL HAVE TIME TO CHANGE THEIR DECISION...THINK WELL & DECIDE.. DO NOT REGRET LATER!!

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