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I totally dislike my father side of the family. They are all rich lunatics, that only knows how to bad talk their own. Especially his sister and her daughter. the mother doesnt work she only stays home and talk on the phne, one day my bro was at their house n he walked in the room n she was on the phne talking about ME! (terrible things) and the daughter is such a pest she has 2 young kids of her own but she is trying to play the mother role on everrrrrrrrrrbodddyy. This past summer i had it, i couldnt take the pain of these ppl an the past all their insults towards me.. so i stopped goin to their house callin them i jus took them out of my life.. im a young girl an now they are like im a s*** and W**** thats why i wont interact with the family.. but i swear its nothing like that wen i was a child i got insulted the kost from those two an the scars are still left inside of me.. i dont tell my parents these thing because of course they wont believe me,my parents r the same as them i dont feel loved maybe once in a while .. i have no one im always by myself i feel like running away and jus die somewhere.. nw my parents r giving me hell at home for nothing talkin to the aunt/an daughter what should i do i reach the limit that all i can think of doing is to go hang myself and die... but god wont be happy.. what shall i do? shud i start talking back to them? if i do they forsure will be the same and i have to take inuslts again.. please someone tell me what to do/ i give up on life. Dont bother replied. Dear Asha,
Relatives are just that.. relatives. You will be pressurized by your parents coz they dont know better or would rather follow the trend than stand up for your happiness.
Just dont give them any importance, do what you please because more you listen to you parents or pay attention to your relatives more you will need therapy later on to get them out of your system.
Believe me, my relatives bugged the hell out of me. And my parents were no better always asking me to be kind to them etc. But i didnt bother always found something better to do with my time then them and slowly with lots of years down the lane, today i dont care about them, they dont matter and now that my parents are retired and on their own they dont care either. It is just .. since they are related we see them once a year at this or that function otherwise nothing. And once you move out of your parents house you will heal better, feel better and they will never matter.
Dont bother, stick to your guns. Dont give those people any importance who dont respect you. This way you will like yourself more and giving up life for the sake of people who dont care 2 hoots about you is silly.
This is just a starting lesson in your life to understand that life is unfair, you cant chose your family or relatives. But you can chose good friends, make wise decisions in picking your spouse. Try to protect your siblings and keep your head above these things.
This will give you good judgement about people in this world and make you stronger,saner and smarter! JointFamily replied. Hey,

World isn't all that bad, else we won't be reading your pain and responding!

You must stop talking about dying. It sounds so foolish to die for picky reason like aunty's relation!
First, aunty has very remote place in your life. You are too young (not even 30% of your life is over, right?). Think of days ahead - college, marriage, married life, kids, their marriage, friends through-out. As we progress in life, own brother, sister start distancing gradually. I don't have same feelings as my dad had for his brothers/sisters. Same, my kids don't feel for my brother/sister. So is your case and your kids in future.
If you have guts, tell your dad and mom on why you are not talking to them - all including recent and childhood cases. Tell if there is any solution and then move on in life.

Your parents love you 100 times more and won't mind breaking off with aunty for your sake. Trust me.

You are in emotional loop. You may want talk to some good friend or person. Come out of this loop.

Take care. Hope to find you somewhere on road in life!

JointFamily.