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Nehal was at school and she turned to the girl next to her and said \" I got a 93 and you only got 70.\"
The girl next to her cringed and gave Nehal a mean look. Nehal did not care and told everyone her grade.

You always brag, Nehal,said one boy.
I do not. It is not my fault I always do better than you,said Nehal mockingly.

Why do children brag?

Children might brag for many reasons. First of all they might lack self-confidence and brag to make themselves feel better. By projecting faults on others and uplifting their own spirits, they begin to feel that they actually are something important in this world. Bragging also occurs among children because they might not know their place in school or at home. By bragging, they will get attention and will feel they belong somewhere. Children could brag about anything ranging from grades to sports and to wealth. If children are lonely, they might be under the wrong assumption that by bragging, people will like them better and they will make more friends.

Discuss this topic! Meera Sanjeev Sarma replied. The main thing about correcting bragging is that parents fail to recognize it. When a child brags, outsiders recognise it but the parents feel that their child being smart (which again actually being oversmart) and talking about his/her achievements. Also the atmosphere at home makes a difference in how much a child brags. Parents should be the first to recognise bragging and correct it accordingly. Also parents first should learn not to brag and that too unncessarily in front of children. This is just a general view point from my side. Am sure there are children who might pick up the habit of bragging from outside. Then it becomes doubly difficult for the parents to correct it.
TAMMY replied. MY PARENTS BUILT A VERY NICE PLAYHOUSE FOR BOTH MY DAUGHTERS 9 AND 3,AS A CHRISTMAS PRESENT 2003. A CO-WORKER OF MINE HAS 3 DAUGHTERS ONE OLDER THAN MY 9 YEAR OLD AND ONE YOUNGER AND A TWO YEAR OLD. SHE WAS AT A BIRTHDAY PARTY FOR MY 3 YEAR OLD AND SHE SAW THE PLAYHOUSE AND WAS VERY IMPRESSED BY IT. IT'S AN 8X10, BUT IT IS COMPLETELY FINISH ON THE INSIDE AND WIRED FOR ELECTRICITY. WELL I WAS LOOKING IN THE CLASSIFIEDS AND THERE WAS A PLAYHOUSE FOR SELL 10X20 WIRED FOR 3500.00. I THOUGHT SHE'D BE INTERESTED AND SHE WAS, THEY BOUGHT IT. NOW HER CHILDREN ARE BRAGGING TO MY DAUGHTER THAT THEIR'S IS BETTER. MY DAUGHTER IS VERY SAD AND CONFUSED BY WHAT THEY HAVE SAID, BECAUSE SHE IS FRIENDS WITH THEM AND CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHY THEY WOULD HURT HER FEELINGS BY SAYING THAT. I HAVE TOLD MY DAUGHTER SHE IS NOT IN COMPETITION WITH THEM AND NOT TO WORRY ABOUT IT. I DON'T LIKE COMPARING WHAT WE HAVE TO OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE IT'S REALLY NOT IMPORTANT AS LONG AS WE ARE HAPPY WITH WHO WE ARE AND WITH WHAT WE HAVE. I TRIED TO TELL HER THAT HER'S WAS BUILT WITH LOVE. REALLY THEIR'S IS BIGGER, BUT IT IS NOT AS NICE ON THE INSIDE. THERE'S ALOT OF WOOD MOLDINGS AND DETAIL IN MY DAUGHTER'S AND WOOD FLOORING THAT'S NOT IN THEIRS. ALTHOUGH I DON'T WANT TO POINT THESE THINGS OUT TO MY DAUGHTER BECAUSE I FEEL THAT IS FALLING INTO WHAT THEY ARE DOING. HOW DO I MAKE MY DAUGHTER FEEL BETTER? I HAVE NEVER SEEN HER LOOK SO HEARTBROKEN.