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my family life is fine, but I have problem with domestic life as my sister-in –law throws tantrums on my daughter (who is 2 1/2 yrs) she is always Taunting, shouts and yell at her and sort of curses her. IAM DEPRESSED AND FRUSTRATED. Plz tell how to overcome. replied. Try to keep ur child away from indecent people, else she will get those dirty habits. Such people need to be sent to the mad house. friend replied. Is your SIL young and unmarried?
I have observed a number of times that young females dont really like kids. I mean, such females are living in their own world and dont like fussy kids. They feel that you have pampered the kid.

Moreover, kids expect love from family members and roam around people in the house, asking thousands of questions, invading privacy. Not everybody likes it. At your SIL's age/place, a kid touching cosmetics or wearing her high-heel sandals might seem like interference.

I am just looking at the same picture from other side (SIL's side) and I m not judging she is right/wrong (well, she seems wrong, she is a female too and will be a mom someday).

I have experienced this with my kid. I have even heard from one of my female colleagues who is married for 3 yrs and is without kid - she just hates her elder BIL's 3 yr old kid who follows her everywhere in the house when she visits in-laws.

What more! I have experienced this myself! When i used to visit my SIL who had a 2 yr old kid-- while sitting besides each other in a car/on couch with kid in her lap, the kid would put his shoes on my salwar-suit/saree and give stains on them. I was newly married and used to wear bridal outfits and did not like it at all. I felt that the mother should be careful about such things.

Again - may be i was wrong, i have a kid now and realise this. Just putting the other side infront of u.

What i mean to say is
- please see if your kid is going out of limits with people (or if you have really pampered the kid)

- judge people and make the kid behave accordingly. Example, your MIL might not mind kid making her clothes 'wet/dirty' but your SIL might. So you know where to let the kid go and where not.

- after all this, if you still find SIL not behaving the right way, talk to her and ask her if your kid is troubling her and how you can fix that (dont blame her, she will fire back). hope 2 help replied. I am so mad that a grown adult would behave like that with a little child. Gosh I would like to open a can of whoop ass on your SIL. She's not only behaving abusively she will also teach your daughter bad habits. What does your husband/brother (depending on how you're related) do? This is highly innapropriate behaviour.

There is no nice way to deal with this, you absolutely MUST talk with your SIL, tell her what you do not like, tell her you wish for it to end. DEMAND SHE STOPS OR TELL HER YOU WILL TAKE ACTION! Keep your child away from her as often as possible, there is no excuse for allowing a child to be around someone who is doing that to her.