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My 2 yr old daughter has recently started hitting other kids at her play school and sometimes even bites if she does not get her way. She has done this a couple of times at home as well. We are very very worried about these bad habits she seems to be developing and we dont really know where she is picking it up from. We have tried explaining to her that its wrong, that it will hurt others and many more such things. We have also tried punising her by making her stand in a corner if she raises her hand at anyone. She obdiently goes thru whatever punishment we give her, says sorry and repeats the same thing again. Nothing seems to have an effect. We do not know if she understands the seriousness of this or thinks its a form of playing. Any suggestions as to how we can get rid of this beating and biting? Thanks in advance. PAYAL replied. Hi Sangeeta,
My daughter is also 2.4 yrs. old she is also very aggressive and she raises handa on me & bites me & also to other family members when we dont admit her way what she want to do & when we stop her to do something wrong she always angerly answers that main karoongi. She never admit her mistakes never say sorry. But I never raise my hand on her I just close her in a room for two minutes 7 then i talk to her politely then she listens me properly & understand me but she also repeat the same thing on next day. But I also liked ur way of punishing to put her in a corner. Its a good way to make children understand without raising hands on them. Anuradha replied. hi,

My daughter is 2now.
She also was comparatively more aggressive during her 18month age.
Now she has improved.

I followed some strategies:

1) Whenever she hurts me..i would act like crying and say it hurts verybadly.
And remind her when she hurts others..see it is hurting the other baby also.

2) Sometimes just getting her out of the play groups.

Just be patient.
I know it very tough, forevery behaviuor there is a phase..and it will pass soon.

All the best,
anu padma replied. Dear Sangeera
Your child must be picking this habbit form you.You must stop hitting her only then will she stop. I have lived in the US and it is against the law to hit your child so you better stop. This is my advice for what itis worth. Also if you want advice on playschools in Bangalore go thru' my earlier mails on which one is best for your preschooler. I myself was in US for 18yrs and am here in b.lore now. So I can give you some perspective. Most of the preschools do not have the \";open-door\"; policy (especially GINTARA),
Best of luck
Padma
Padma