Parents of Preschoolers  Discussion Forum

Hi, I have just put my 2 and a half year old son in a playschool. I couldn't start his schooling earlier as I was on the move all the time. Though he is very intelligent and picks up things very easily, he is not adapting to the idea of remaining alone in school without me. The teacher says it is okay for me to accompany him for a few days so that he will adjust better. I wonder whether I am doing the right thing. Please advise. Angela replied. Hi, I am a parent of 3 1/2 year old son. My son used to cry when he was going to the nursery, but gradually around Jan. he was alright and went to school. But now he in Jr. KG, but he always cries. I went and talked to the teacher also, but could not guess the problem. He goes by the school bus, and even if he goes properly he has excuses such as stomach pain, feeling vommiting. What should I do to overcome this problem? Please help. nicemom replied. hi rify,
i know it feels embaracing when your child tells you to join in or hold hand to color,etc. my daughter sometimes used to literally cling to me like a baby monkey. but belive me it will change one day. i'm telling you the exact words my daughte's teacher told. \";just wait, there will be a day she will waive you bye\";.
don't get bugged on her. tell her mommy is going to sit her and watch you play. then tell her a few other kid's names and ask her if she can show you how she can play and do activites with them.
say things like, \";can you show miss xyz, what have you colored?' (the teacher)
let me know what happenes nicemom replied. hi nishma,
you are doing the right thing by accompanying your son for a few days till he gets used to school. i put my daughter in play-school when she was 22 mths old and she had the same problem. she would cling on too me and wouldn't leave me. till the time i was in the room she was fine but wouldn't let me leave.
after a week i left her by herself with the teacher for just 1/2 hr, i used to call and find out how she was doing. she would cry for 10 mins and then eventually stop crying.
soon she came to know that mommy will come and pick me up. once they get the confidence that you will come to take them back home, he will let you go.
don't leave the room without saying bye. b'coz if you do that & when the child realises that you have gone, he will be angry and also scared. always, kiss him bye and let him know that you will be back soon, to pick him up.
try leaving him at the time you think he'll enjoy most, like the time the group is in the playground or just started circle time, etc.
it took my daughter 15-20 days to fully adjust!! but on the 21st day, she went on her own to the teacher, said \";bye mamma, see you later\";.
don't get disappointed.