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Name: abx

Hi everyone,
I had been hoping since long that my problems would get solved and kept hoping for the best and tried to bury everything within my mind. My problem started very soon after our marriage and though we stayed out of india my life is more or less only like a in laws dominated house. It all happened when my foolish husband fell a pray to his mother's sweet behaviour(which which she is not actually) and keeeps on trusting that whatever she says is correct and only what i do is wrong. Right from the beginning she tried to to put up a show saying she is like my daughter and thus both my husbands and my in laws expecatation grew day by day. My mil used to talk so sweet about me in front of her beloved son but when i spoke to her she used to talk in a sarcastic manner. I first used to bear with everything and later on when i told my husband about all this he never even believed in my words and told me that his mom is a goddess and iam nothing to him. Een when we stayed for a while for our vacation he used to run behind his mom ,hug her saying ,hai honey etc etc and used to just neglect me.And even his mom used used to enjoy all this and tried to pull her son to her side for no sin at all committed by me. Day by day all this bullshit kept growing like his mom trying to put up a show in front of him and he believing in his mothers ways. And when i got pregnant and had to go to india my husband kept telling me that u have to call my parents daily and when i called them they never even used to respond to me properly and his dad used to treat me like garbage.And then when their beloved son came to india , they tried to poison his mind and tried to pick up a big quarrel between both of us, and called my parents to their house. Instead of bringing a compromise they blew up their fight and asked my parents to get out of their house and my husband never even used to come to see me and child .And all this they did while i was inmy final stages of pregnancy and hence u all could imagine what sort of mental torture i would have undergone. And after my husband left india he used to tell me that i must visit his parents every now and then, and when i used to call up his parents my fil used to ask me why are u coming and how long u will be staying and all sorts of bullshit. And even when i said all this to my husband he used to say even if they say that u have to again and again ask them , And throout my life only this has been hapenning, they trying to insult me and me going to their house in spite of all this and even now only this has been happenning. Even now he keeps on saying that i should call them up daily and talk to them. Is there any commonsense in all this. What is there for someone to talk daily to their in laws and that too to such deceivers. Now he is trying to blackmail me that if i don;t satisfy all his needs he will give me a divorce. I have my kid and for that sake i do not want it.EVen now they have brainwashed their son saying that i should take care of them in their old age though they have other two sons and they expect it from me. And i told him that i am ready even ready for that as well. But i keep on asking to myself in what way is it fair for them to treat me like shit and expect good behaviour from me. I am really confused and desperate. I have tried venting out my feelings to my hubby but still he takes only his parents side. So far i have been living only as per wishes but slowly i have started feeling that the more i do the more he expects out of me and i don't know what's going to be end to all this. When ever this topic arises we get into misunderstanding and don't even talk to each other for one week or so, so again i only keep compromisign. In what way is it fair for me to keeps serving those people who treat me and my parents like garbage. Please advice. I am almost into a mental depresssion due to all this and i am not able to tolerate all this nonsense.

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