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2002-08-14

Name: Nina Dear Rashmi,
I hope you're doing fine.
I wanted to respond to your question about how you will explain to your little girl later on when she asks about why Mommy and Daddy aren't together.

yes, I can imagine, that's already on your mind.

What I would suggest is to explain to her that Mommy and Daddy both love her very much. In simple terms, explain to her that sometimes Mommies and Daddies care about each other and their children but sometimes things happen in their relationship that is hard for them to work on together.

I guess that sounds quite complicated; but, as she becomes old enough to really ask, that answer may be towards her understanding.

Rashmi,
do you have he support of your family, his family?

Sometimes, that is a huge factor in how you may choose to explain to your child.

Take care,

I look forward to hearing more from you,

Your Friend,
Nina

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2005-05-22

Name: Mark
Subject:

Help for Single Parents

I am Mark, Indian /Male/ working in Dubai last 8 years, I am a single parent for my 10 years old daughter & I am taking care of my daughter by facing lots of internal as well as external problems. You can imagine how difficult is bringing up a small kid in foreign country like UAE. I read all the problems and issues of single parenting. b coz I am experiencing that. Any one want to discuss their problems regarding single parenting, or husband and wife separation issue i am ready to join with them to find good solutions. Me and my wife separated almost 8 years back ,In that time every one said Father can not take care of baby girl , I took that challenge and she is now 10 years old. I didn�t tried to get marry also. I used to read lots of issue here, I wish to get involve and find some solutions for them. For that any one can contact me. thru email.
Best of luck for every one
Rgds /
Mark from UAE

2002-09-06

Name: chitra
Subject:

what do i tell them...?

hi,
i am a single mom - with 2 sons. i have a similar problem to rashmi.
my husband died when my younger son was 6 months and the older3.6 yrs.
so the older has known his dad - but the little fellow has no idea what a dad is.
and i live alone- without my family - or any support even from my late hubby's family - so the boys don't really have much family fun.
the question - what do i tell the little one?? and one day soon i will have to. he's 2 years now- and the day will be here soon.
any ideas?
chitra

2002-09-10

Name: nicemom
Subject:

hi chitra

hi,
i'm not in the same boat as you are but can very well empathise with your situation. my daughter is almost 3 yrs old and whenevr she asks me a question reagarding death, i answer it without any hesitation.
what i explain to her is that people dies due to illness, age , accidents, etc. when they die they become stars and look upon us. i got this idea form the disney movie 'lion king' where the father dies. my daughter was sad and said 'what happened to simba's dad? will he move his hands and legs now?" i explained that he was dead and will become a star and will look and guide simba from the sky.
don't try to hide this topic from the kids. tell it in a way that they can digest and feel secured abt the situation thye are in right now. tell yuor son that even if dads not there physically with them, she looks at them from the sky. let your son know that when he feels like talking to dad, to look into the sky and talk aloud...smile laugh cry...whatever he feels.
my daughter asks where is my grand-pa, and i tell her this story and she is not sad anymore.

i can understand how difficult it is to comfort little hearts and see that they don't break.

i must tell you chitra, you are a BRAVE AND COURAGEOUS lady. HATS OFF TO YOU. you are doing your job and duty so well. wish you lots of luck.
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