My son is almost 4 months now.I had to put him to formula milk in the second month itself as he was always hungry and my supply was very less. His weight gain had also stopped for 2 weeks. Then I started a combination of my feed as well as formula but by 2 and half it was total formula. I am continuously feeling guilty that I could not feed him. I fear that he will not be able to relate to me and will have no bonding with me. His response to me is quite less.Is my worry genuine.
Now its 4th month and I have stared work. Please suggest and also give means by which I can have a bonding with him
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My son is almost 4 months now.I had to put him to formula milk in the second month itself as he was always hungry and my supply was very less. His weight gain had also stopped for 2 weeks. Then I started a combination of my feed as well as formula but by 2 and half it was total formula. I am continuously feeling guilty that I could not feed him. I fear that he will not be able to relate to me and will have no bonding with me. His response to me is quite less.Is my worry genuine.
Now its 4th month and I have stared work. Please suggest and also give means by which I can have a bonding with him
could not feed replied. Dont worry I know a lot of ppl who have not been fed, My mother was not fed but she loves my grand mom the most. My husband & his bro r not fed but they love their mother unconditionaly. I understand how u feel as even i could not feed i used to cry till 5 months. But its not the only thing we all love our children & want the best for them. ALso do keep in mind more than half the world survies on weaning foods thats where companies like nestle & P&G make their profits. If u love ur child it will superscede every thing else
prao replied. do not worry dear.. Breast feeding is just one of the many wonderful things a mother does for her child.
My mother was not able to bf me after 20 days, that hasnt stopped us from having a wonderful relationship
Spend as much time as u can with your little one, try to push out all anxiety from you mind (I know.. easier said than done :) and enjoy your babies company. Children can sense their parents emotions, so your baby will be happy & relaxed if you are
DK replied. Hi,
I know exactly how you feel when u say fel guilty about not being able to give your baby breastfeed.. im going throught the same. Since the second month my feed had reduced so i startedformula and now in his third month hes completely on formula cause i am not able to produce any milk.. or not more than a few drops,but im still trying. I too feel guilty at times but then i think to myself its not that i dont WANT to BF my son.. i CANT...Ill try for as long as i can then quit.. but theres nothing to feel guilty about. U are not choosing to feed formula to your baby..
As far as bonding is concerned .. you should not worry about that. Spend as much time as possible with your baby, playing, talking, cuddling.. nothing to be bothered about.
Hope all goes weel for you.
Hetal replied. ip windows are hangng my screen,,,sry for duplicate posts !
Hetal replied. baby bonding is irrespective of source of formula or bm.
the wght gain has stopped for 2 weeks,,if he has not yet recovered from it, or let me say no wght gain at all past 15days,,your baby needs to be examined by your dr.
about feeling guilty,,you tried your best and you couldnt get a milk supply which could satisfy him,,and it was out of your control to have good supply ! for something that is not in your control,,why you want to take the blame of it ?????????????????///
i can only say onething here,,that your child wght is constant since 15days, which is not a good sign and that could be the reason that he is not responsive...for 4months old to 1 year, child wght should be increasng to couple grams atleast per week ! if not in kgs,,and if its constant or not increasing before 6months,,its a sign of something to worry about.
at first, check with your dr about this, and mention about his wght issues.
secondly, about increasng bonding, eye contact, constant touching/cuddlng, talking,givng smiles and singing to him nething that comes in your mind,,will help. whenever you are back home from work, wear him (wear him/baby slings) it will automatically create bonding with your constant touch.if he is sleepng in crib, transfer him to your bed,next to you,,
for a mother, bonding should not be a worry,,as its natural and it dpends on how much time is spend on baby when baby is wide awake..your child is at 4months, which means he can easily see your face for upto 8-10cm far,,so come that close, and talk to him,,,give him massage, whenever you have time,,he will feel good and rem the touch !
while feeding him with bottle, hold him as close as you can, just next to your breast and he will feel closeness.
while feeding him,,holding his hands and open his fist,,give him gentle massage there,,he will feel good !
last but not the least,,4months, constant or no wght gain,,could be the sign that he needs to start on solids.
ask your dr about it !
take care,,get your baby checked by your dr and mention his wght gain in past 1month,,he will guide you the rest !
Hetal replied. baby bonding is irrespective of source of formula or bm.
the wght gain has stopped for 2 weeks,,if he has not yet recovered from it, or let me say no wght gain at all past 15days,,your baby needs to be examined by your dr.
about feeling guilty,,you tried your best and you couldnt get a milk supply which could satisfy him,,and it was out of your control to have good supply ! for something that is not in your control,,why you want to take the blame of it ?????????????????///
i can only say onething here,,that your child wght is constant since 15days, which is not a good sign and that could be the reason that he is not responsive...for 4months old to 1 year, child wght should be increasng to couple grams atleast per week ! if not in kgs,,and if its constant or not increasing before 6months,,its a sign of something to worry about.
at first, check with your dr about this, and mention about his wght issues.
secondly, about increasng bonding, eye contact, constant touching/cuddlng, talking,givng smiles and singing to him nething that comes in your mind,,will help. whenever you are back home from work, wear him (wear him/baby slings) it will automatically create bonding with your constant touch.if he is sleepng in crib, transfer him to your bed,next to you,,
for a mother, bonding should not be a worry,,as its natural and it dpends on how much time is spend on baby when baby is wide awake..your child is at 4months, which means he can easily see your face for upto 8-10cm far,,so come that close, and talk to him,,,give him massage, whenever you have time,,he will feel good and rem the touch !
while feeding him with bottle, hold him as close as you can, just next to your breast and he will feel closeness.
while feeding him,,holding his hands and open his fist,,give him gentle massage there,,he will feel good !
take care,,get your baby checked by your dr and mention his wght gain in past 1month,,he will guide you the rest !
yam replied. Breastfeeding should not define the bonding with the baby. A mother is a mother afterall. Even many of those who adopt children have proven to be great mothers. So leave the guilt first.
And there are many mothers who dont feed the baby even though they hv bm; in fear of losing their 'figures'.
If you and other members of family are talking, playing, loving, cuddling the baby, he shd be responding by now.
Why is the baby not responsive to you? Has he started rolling over or turning to sides?
Have you checked with the doctor for his not being too responding? If not, pls do so.
2007-02-20
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Name: could not feed Subject: Dont worry
Dont worry I know a lot of ppl who have not been fed, My mother was not fed but she loves my grand mom the most. My husband & his bro r not fed but they love their mother unconditionaly. I understand how u feel as even i could not feed i used to cry till 5 months. But its not the only thing we all love our children & want the best for them. ALso do keep in mind more than half the world survies on weaning foods thats where companies like nestle & P&G make their profits. If u love ur child it will superscede every thing else
2006-12-21
#2
Name: prao Subject: relax...
do not worry dear.. Breast feeding is just one of the many wonderful things a mother does for her child.
My mother was not able to bf me after 20 days, that hasnt stopped us from having a wonderful relationship
Spend as much time as u can with your little one, try to push out all anxiety from you mind (I know.. easier said than done :) and enjoy your babies company. Children can sense their parents emotions, so your baby will be happy & relaxed if you are
2006-12-20
#3
Name: DK Subject: Bonding...
Hi,
I know exactly how you feel when u say fel guilty about not being able to give your baby breastfeed.. im going throught the same. Since the second month my feed had reduced so i startedformula and now in his third month hes completely on formula cause i am not able to produce any milk.. or not more than a few drops,but im still trying. I too feel guilty at times but then i think to myself its not that i dont WANT to BF my son.. i CANT...Ill try for as long as i can then quit.. but theres nothing to feel guilty about. U are not choosing to feed formula to your baby..
As far as bonding is concerned .. you should not worry about that. Spend as much time as possible with your baby, playing, talking, cuddling.. nothing to be bothered about.
Hope all goes weel for you.
2006-12-20
#4
Name: Hetal Subject: sry windows getn hanged
ip windows are hangng my screen,,,sry for duplicate posts !
2006-12-20
#5
Name: Hetal Subject: Re
baby bonding is irrespective of source of formula or bm.
the wght gain has stopped for 2 weeks,,if he has not yet recovered from it, or let me say no wght gain at all past 15days,,your baby needs to be examined by your dr.
about feeling guilty,,you tried your best and you couldnt get a milk supply which could satisfy him,,and it was out of your control to have good supply ! for something that is not in your control,,why you want to take the blame of it ?????????????????///
i can only say onething here,,that your child wght is constant since 15days, which is not a good sign and that could be the reason that he is not responsive...for 4months old to 1 year, child wght should be increasng to couple grams atleast per week ! if not in kgs,,and if its constant or not increasing before 6months,,its a sign of something to worry about.
at first, check with your dr about this, and mention about his wght issues.
secondly, about increasng bonding, eye contact, constant touching/cuddlng, talking,givng smiles and singing to him nething that comes in your mind,,will help. whenever you are back home from work, wear him (wear him/baby slings) it will automatically create bonding with your constant touch.if he is sleepng in crib, transfer him to your bed,next to you,,
for a mother, bonding should not be a worry,,as its natural and it dpends on how much time is spend on baby when baby is wide awake..your child is at 4months, which means he can easily see your face for upto 8-10cm far,,so come that close, and talk to him,,,give him massage, whenever you have time,,he will feel good and rem the touch !
while feeding him with bottle, hold him as close as you can, just next to your breast and he will feel closeness.
while feeding him,,holding his hands and open his fist,,give him gentle massage there,,he will feel good !
last but not the least,,4months, constant or no wght gain,,could be the sign that he needs to start on solids.
ask your dr about it !
take care,,get your baby checked by your dr and mention his wght gain in past 1month,,he will guide you the rest !
2006-12-20
#6
Name: Hetal Subject: Re
baby bonding is irrespective of source of formula or bm.
the wght gain has stopped for 2 weeks,,if he has not yet recovered from it, or let me say no wght gain at all past 15days,,your baby needs to be examined by your dr.
about feeling guilty,,you tried your best and you couldnt get a milk supply which could satisfy him,,and it was out of your control to have good supply ! for something that is not in your control,,why you want to take the blame of it ?????????????????///
i can only say onething here,,that your child wght is constant since 15days, which is not a good sign and that could be the reason that he is not responsive...for 4months old to 1 year, child wght should be increasng to couple grams atleast per week ! if not in kgs,,and if its constant or not increasing before 6months,,its a sign of something to worry about.
at first, check with your dr about this, and mention about his wght issues.
secondly, about increasng bonding, eye contact, constant touching/cuddlng, talking,givng smiles and singing to him nething that comes in your mind,,will help. whenever you are back home from work, wear him (wear him/baby slings) it will automatically create bonding with your constant touch.if he is sleepng in crib, transfer him to your bed,next to you,,
for a mother, bonding should not be a worry,,as its natural and it dpends on how much time is spend on baby when baby is wide awake..your child is at 4months, which means he can easily see your face for upto 8-10cm far,,so come that close, and talk to him,,,give him massage, whenever you have time,,he will feel good and rem the touch !
while feeding him with bottle, hold him as close as you can, just next to your breast and he will feel closeness.
while feeding him,,holding his hands and open his fist,,give him gentle massage there,,he will feel good !
take care,,get your baby checked by your dr and mention his wght gain in past 1month,,he will guide you the rest !
2006-12-20
#7
Name: Hetal Subject: Re
baby bonding is irrespective of source of formula or bm.
the wght gain has stopped for 2 weeks,,if he has not yet recovered from it, or let me say no wght gain at all past 15days,,your baby needs to be examined by your dr.
about feeling guilty,,you tried your best and you couldnt get a milk supply which could satisfy him,,and it was out of your control to have good supply ! for something that is not in your control,,why you want to take the blame of it ?????????????????///
i can only say onething here,,that your child wght is constant since 15days, which is not a good sign and that could be the reason that he is not responsive...for 4months old to 1 year, child wght should be increasng to couple grams atleast per week ! if not in kgs,,and if its constant or not increasing before 6months,,its a sign of something to worry about.
at first, check with your dr about this, and mention about his wght issues.
secondly, about increasng bonding, eye contact, constant touching/cuddlng, talking,givng smiles and singing to him nething that comes in your mind,,will help. whenever you are back home from work, wear him (wear him/baby slings) it will automatically create bonding with your constant touch.if he is sleepng in crib, transfer him to your bed,next to you,,
for a mother, bonding should not be a worry,,as its natural and it dpends on how much time is spend on baby when baby is wide awake..your child is at 4months, which means he can easily see your face for upto 8-10cm far,,so come that close, and talk to him,,,give him massage, whenever you have time,,he will feel good and rem the touch !
while feeding him with bottle, hold him as close as you can, just next to your breast and he will feel closeness.
while feeding him,,holding his hands and open his fist,,give him gentle massage there,,he will feel good !
last but not the least,,4months, constant or no wght gain,,could be the sign that he needs to start on solids.
ask your dr about it !
take care,,get your baby checked by your dr and mention his wght gain in past 1month,,he will guide you the rest !
2006-12-19
#8
Name: yam Subject: Re:
Breastfeeding should not define the bonding with the baby. A mother is a mother afterall. Even many of those who adopt children have proven to be great mothers. So leave the guilt first.
And there are many mothers who dont feed the baby even though they hv bm; in fear of losing their 'figures'.
If you and other members of family are talking, playing, loving, cuddling the baby, he shd be responding by now.
Why is the baby not responsive to you? Has he started rolling over or turning to sides?
Have you checked with the doctor for his not being too responding? If not, pls do so.
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