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I hate when people don't write back.

Hello. How are you? I am in Virginia.

Sorta similar situation. Its been 4 years for me and still they are like how your inlaws are but getting better. It takes a long time. Sometime it never happens. But if you married for soley love I am sorry to say but most likely that will fade overtime and the guy's family will slowly wean him over to their side. The guy you married is he a legal US resident? I hope by marrying you he did not gain any favours in terms of his status here in America. There are a lot of guys that marry American girls like you without their family's approval and two years later, end up leaving the girl and siding with their parent. This has happened too many times in many cultures to many American and non-American girls. Sad to say some are just too stupid to know it and do not take heed of their friend's and family member's advise.

If you want a friend in America, maybe I am the one for you. What is your email address?

Hey there Tracey. I was born overseas but have been in America almost all my life. I consider myself American in some of my habits but predominantly my relegion has the most influence over me, so I am mostly that.

Yes I married for love but love for the sake of my Lord to bring me closer to him and complete my faith through marriage. Love had to do with it a lot as I was in love and saw the world and my hubby in a different light then I do now. Love is blinding and in some cases it is misleading. Especially in today's culture it is so enticing for young folks when I think truly, in some ways it is very sinister and hurts more then it heals.

Really the "Desi" inlaws gave me the hardest obstacle ever in my life. In 4 years I can definitely see the effect. Now I regret not taking their approval more seriously before I married. I was so young, and so dumb, and inexperiences in life and in the world. I never knew anything about their culture and how unwelcome some of them are to change. Even though his mom is stuck to the TV watching those Indian love sagas she could not accept it when one of the stories came true for her own son.

Anyway, things are slowly getting better. But I am still not trusting it either and have not let my guard down.

But yeah, if you want to be friends, email me with your name or phone number? I know its not safe here online that is why I do not want to post anything either, but do you know any other way? Maybe if you have MSN you can give me your email address and we can go from there?

I look forward to it. Most people here where I live in the US have accepting inlaws, at least from my religious community, and no one would ever do what I did which was marrying the guy with my family's approval but w/o his family's approval. Its embarassing to mention. But they all feel for us and always have and his mom has been chastized many times in the past by her friends, so I heard.

Write me ok.

Girl,
Thanks for the reply. My husband is a green card holder and does not need me to be a citizen. So there is no issue with that. Are you American? Did you marry for love? I don't think his love will fade I think over time we will get stronger. I am really beginning to think
we are getting better together. We have been working on communication and what each other needs. I think if he were going to leave me he would have already done that. I think he doesn't know how to bring the 2 worlds together. Each world loves him but he kows the 2 worlds are so different and is afraid of what would happen if they were together.