I hv a peculiar issue. I am disturbed abt a very good frend of mine whom I know since 11yrs.
She is married and has a 3yr old girl. Since the beginning of my pregnancy I have been trying to share abt my preg to her, not that she doesnt reciprocate, but just used to answer to what I ask. I found u all whom I know only thro this forum more interested and keen in this, I know we are all preg now and share the common thing.
This is my first preg and thot she will really be happy and keep me motivated too. We r really good frends like sisters infact.
But since I talk to her daily and she dont ask anything abt the preg or baby or if baby is kicking or abt my doc appt or abt my discomforts, it was really strange for me. Still we talk for an hour a day atleast. I even told her abt this board and she did visit to read our msg, I asked her what all to buy and suggestions and its all a one liner reply.
Whenever I go out and meet people, all approach me with smile and give suggestions, I am sure u all exp it too.
Its not like she has some issues thats y she didnt show interest, nothing of that sort.
Then why does my frend behave so odd?
I talk to her kid often and also ask her daily abt what she eats and what she does in school etc...
Dont u think girls after this preg if any of ur frends get preg, wont u advice or suggest or atleast enquire, I am sure its a universal feeling for women that make us feel spl for life.
xyz Suni replied. Hi,

Do try to ignore this aspect of your friend, I know it is easier said than done, but then that is the only option. Some people react differently, must be she likes that conversation revolves around her and does not like sharing the spotlight. All such observations can only be speculation. Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy, remember there is no one more important than your baby right now, and it is their loss if they dont want to share in your experience. Anytime you want to talk, this group is always active. We will be happy to share your experiences.

Take Care
Suni Radhika replied. I can understand how u are feeling, if u both are really good friends, u can try talking frankly to her and just say u r feeling hurt..(if u think she will take it broadmindedly)..thats what friendship is open and free..if its uncomfortable for u, forget it, enjoy things u used to share before ur pregnancy. Maybe she will open up when she realizes u have stopped talking about ur pregnancy.
I have seen people I know who don't like to share the info and knowledge they have..its human nature, not everyone likes to share information and help out, they keep certain things to themselves..(if we see common eg..like sharing recipes,two ladies sharing baby issues/items will not give all info)..its a weird human nature...some extreme like this..don't worry...even if she is not being the ideal friend, u do what u can to maintain the friendship to a point where u r comfortable ..and if she uncomfortable with certain issues, no point expecting her to open up..maybe she will some day and even help u once u have ur baby. Be positive..after all u have this great group of people here who are ready to answer any ques u have unselfishly..so cheer up..try to maintain ur friendship with her as much as u can becoz friendship is the best relation u can have..and hope for the best. Manisha replied. Hi there!!

Hope you are doing good. I can understand your problem, when somebody so close doesn't show any concern for you, you feel like this. but don't worry yourself for that. May be your friend is that kind who don't share their knowledge, or she herself doesn't know much about it. I also have a very good friend who has 2 kids, younger one is just 1 year old. She never bothered to read anything about pregnancy when she was experiencing it. Some people just take it easy & just let these changes happen to their body thinking that it happens to everybody, while some people are more concerned and want to know in detail about it.
We are here for you, so many friends, all of us are concerned, that's the best thing that could have happened during pregnancy.
So just enjoy with us.

Manisha kalyani replied. hi,

You are pregnant now so don't worry for this.Just ignore her.Be happy and enjoy your pregnancy.Some people are like that.I love to share about my pregnancy and also guide those who don't know much about pregnancy.My cousin has just came to know that she is pregnant.I give her lots of tips and advice.I don't know why your friend is doing like that.Here after avoid talking to her about your pregnancy and asking suggestions.Talk to her about other issues.one day or the other she will realise her mistake and then talk to you about ur pregnancy.If you want to share about ur pregnancy then post in this board.We are there to read it and give our suggestions.Don't waste your time by telling it to someone who don't care for you.This is the time you must be happy.Don't worry and make your baby uncomfortable.so enjoy xyz ;-).
Take care of you and your baby.

with love from
kalyani