Im 17 years old (im english) and I have an indian boyfriend. He is older than me and we have both decided that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. I love him more than anything, but our culture is tearing us apart. He wants everything his way! He wants to me bow down to him when we live together, he wants our kids to be forced to be religious, he wants his whole family to come and live with us when we marry and I hate the idea of all of this.
Iam an independant woman and believe that men and women should always be equal. we should cook for each other often, we should both be equally important...we should BOTH compromise. Iam not religious, this is not to say I dont respect his religion, I do, but I dont not believe we should force our children to be. Yes, we may teach them about religion, show them that if they decide to, then there is religion for them to chose. But not force them.
I have always dreamed about living in my own house, with my husband and lots of children. Not with my husbands family??? I hate the idea.
I will not fit into this nice little family life. Iam simply not an indian woman, I cannot cook indian food, it will not work.
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Im 17 years old (im english) and I have an indian boyfriend. He is older than me and we have both decided that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. I love him more than anything, but our culture is tearing us apart. He wants everything his way! He wants to me bow down to him when we live together, he wants our kids to be forced to be religious, he wants his whole family to come and live with us when we marry and I hate the idea of all of this.
Iam an independant woman and believe that men and women should always be equal. we should cook for each other often, we should both be equally important...we should BOTH compromise. Iam not religious, this is not to say I dont respect his religion, I do, but I dont not believe we should force our children to be. Yes, we may teach them about religion, show them that if they decide to, then there is religion for them to chose. But not force them.
I have always dreamed about living in my own house, with my husband and lots of children. Not with my husbands family??? I hate the idea.
I will not fit into this nice little family life. Iam simply not an indian woman, I cannot cook indian food, it will not work.
Help.
*Sparkle* replied. Thanx everyone xx
*Sparkle* replied. I know Iam only young, but I love him, I do not want to get married within the next 10 years, but I want it to be with him! I love him and dont see myself having a future with anyone else! Someone understand :-( xx
*Sparkle*
prumessence replied. First of all you are 17, you dont have to start picturing your adult life from now itself with all that seriousness.
Secondly even indian women arent what you think they are, Just like a southern(US) woman seems to be all homely there is a flip side to Indian women too.
Another thing, my indian husband helps me cook,clean,takes care of our child and is utterly romantic. So find a good boy friend, grow up and then worry about marriage & then maybe you will know yourself better to figure out what kind of man you will marry! Good luck.
Kiii replied. My dear Sparkle,
17 years is too young to commit to a lifelong relationship.
It is good to know that you are independant and strong. Just grow up a little bit. Your experiences in relationships and life will help you understand what you really seek in a life partner.
Kiii replied. My dear Sparkle,
17 years is too young to commit to a lifelong relationship.
It is good to know that you are independant and strong. Just grow up a little bit. Your experiences in relationships and life will help you understand what you really seek in a life partner.
2005-09-29
#1
Name: *Sparkle* Subject: Thanx x
Thanx everyone xx
2005-09-28
#2
Name: *Sparkle* Subject: Hey x
I know Iam only young, but I love him, I do not want to get married within the next 10 years, but I want it to be with him! I love him and dont see myself having a future with anyone else! Someone understand :-( xx
*Sparkle*
2005-09-29
#3
Name: Kiii Subject: Hi
I do understand Sparkle. What I am trying to say is that *you* are the best judge of how you feel in a relationship. If something feels wrong dont feel pressured to "make it work" by compromising on what is right for you...especially when he doesn't feel that way.
2005-09-28
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Name: Inna Subject: hi
Hi *sparkle*,
I know it is very frustrating. I have been in ur situation before and thought that my love at 17 was the love of my life and I can't live without him but by the time I turned 20, I realized what my priorites were and I ended the relationship myself.
Don't give it too much thought right now (I know its difficult) but you can't change what is their in your destiny. If you are to live with him happily ever after you will but if not you'll grow out of it.
I know what I wrote and what you want to hear is not same but dear this is truth. Focus on your education and career right now. No one can control what is gonna happen.
2005-09-28
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Name: prumessence Subject: Relax
First of all you are 17, you dont have to start picturing your adult life from now itself with all that seriousness.
Secondly even indian women arent what you think they are, Just like a southern(US) woman seems to be all homely there is a flip side to Indian women too.
Another thing, my indian husband helps me cook,clean,takes care of our child and is utterly romantic. So find a good boy friend, grow up and then worry about marriage & then maybe you will know yourself better to figure out what kind of man you will marry! Good luck.
2005-09-28
#6
Name: Kiii Subject: Hi
My dear Sparkle,
17 years is too young to commit to a lifelong relationship.
It is good to know that you are independant and strong. Just grow up a little bit. Your experiences in relationships and life will help you understand what you really seek in a life partner.
2005-09-28
#7
Name: Kiii Subject: Hi
My dear Sparkle,
17 years is too young to commit to a lifelong relationship.
It is good to know that you are independant and strong. Just grow up a little bit. Your experiences in relationships and life will help you understand what you really seek in a life partner.
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