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hello all
i am married for 2 1/2 yrs and it has been very tough since my husband is only child and works in family business... His parents did not like my parents, and made it difficult for me to visit my family, etc.. We have all financial issues, family issues, religious issues, however, thank fully my husband has realised that he used to side with is parents and has now stated he will not side with them any longer, etc
Usually my husband meets his mother for lunch each day as he works in the same business and his office is near my MIL's house. I cannot join them for lunch as they are 1 hour away from where I work. My problem is that I feel very insecure each time my husband is alone with his mother. Reason for this is because I feel that she \";brain washes\"; my husband with info on my family or our marriage - basically interference. I have mentioned to my husband that I feel insecure and uncomfy, lack of trust, etc.. and he has assured me there is nothing to worry about. Yet I feel like this ! Is that normal ? I am a working woman... Still even during working hours I think about each time he goes to visit his mother for lunch - what is she going to tell him today ! Also, I have noticed that each time my husband goes and visits his mother for lunch, and then comes home to me in the evening, he hardly talks to me about his work day. However, if there is one odd day when he does not visit his mother for lunch, he has a lot to say to me about his day. What I am saying is that I feel \";used\"; because generally he does not want to talk to me about his work day, but if his mother is not around, he does talk to me. I feel like 2nd priority. I know that they work together in the same business, since the last 10 yrs... I get very irritated when this happens, even though I have told this to my husband....Am I expecting too much ? Kiii replied. You seem to be beating yourself up about whether your husband has luch with his mother, what they talk, whether she brainwashes him....I think you are being obsessive

Realise that you are so lucky that you dont have to live with your inlaws. Life is never going to be 100% perfect. there will always be some irritations. Focus on positives. Focus on happiness. Develop a hobby, make friends. Read, go for walks, pray, meditate. there are so many wonderful things to do in life rather than think about what your MIL and husband talk during lunch!!!