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Hi eveyone i need advice from all of you.This is not an in law related question but i am really very confused.I have posted here before,many times,mostly to vent out my in laws problems and got some great advice.
I have been diagnosed with an ovarian cyst a few months back.I was having pain and other health problems since jan/feb.i had gone to stay with my brother(who's a doctor) in another dtate for few months.
Now the thing is this seems to be a persistant cyst.It's not going away,causing other problems and might need surgery. In my family only hubby and I and my brother knows about it.I would'nt dare to tell my in laws as they will then think i am infertile or something.
Now for my parents.Like all parents they love me so much.They are going to apply for visa soon and might come here in USA in october this year.My dad is a very experienced doctor in India.
I have given them a lot of tension due to my in laws in my last trip to india and just immediately after my marriage 2 n half years ago.
They both have bp and all and they (esp dad)gets so so worried when he knows something is wrong with me.
I want to know if this is a good time to tell them about the cyst.The bad thing will of course be undue tension that they will take.
The good thing will be i might feel lighter(or maybe more guily...can't say)
I will be able to take advice from them which i badly need.
I am also scared that when they visit,what if i fall sick during that time.they will know then but in an unpleasant hasty manner.
I am as it is very scared about the cyst and have had too much gas also lately which could mean trouble and which could mean this is not just a cyst.I will know only if i get surgery.
My gynaec has asked me to take birth control pills to see if that will help.
I have read elsewhere and also been told by my family practioner here that bc pills do not help shrink an already formed cyst.I am confused about this also and would love to get some advice from you.
I have always had regular periods and do not like the idea of taking hormones,and am worried about the side effects.
So my main worries are
Do i tell my parents about my health.
What is your advice about Birth control pills.
Have any of you or a relative experienced complex ovarian cysts before.
Thanks a lot friends
Sabs sha replied. I think you should tell your parents in a casual way and that way they also will adapt the situation.Your father being a doctor will understand and can give good advice as to what to do. It is always better to solve the problem than waiting and thinking how others feel .Take action immediately ,but don't scare them ,use your voice in such a way they feel it is a small surgery and you are happy to do it to get rid of the pain. If you keep it for long time and if it get worse, it willbe bad for you and your parents. Your parents will surely understand this situation.
All the best Rashmi replied. I will not be able to give you much advice on ovarian cysts or on whether you should tell your parents.

Each person's situation is unique and you would be the best judge of whether your parents will be able to handle the news. Maybe if you ask your husband or brother to talk to them, they would react better?

Meanwhile if you are not satisfied with your gc's suggestion, try another doctor and yet another. Never feel shy to take as many opinions as you want till you feel comfortable.

Take care