Hi hetal & moms out there,

I m really confused what to do...

when my baby was 4 months old i started going to off hence his day tm breast feeding was stopped ... he was on bottle milk and also i have stared solid like celelac and all early....
during 4-10 months i gave my milk in eve and before sleep and nights....

Now he is 11 months old and takes breastmilk only at night and before he sleeps....

my mom, relatives from my mom's side and sis are saying that before he turns 1 yrs u shd try to waen the breast milk otherwise later it wd be diff to wean and than brest feeding wd continued till 2yrs and may be longer..

now other side of story is that my mother in law has already filled my hubby ears by saying that as she has taken job early and baby havn't got sifficent mothers milk so she shd continue till baby turns 1.5 yrs old...

As he going to be one in few days he is now eating all veggi .... rice... egg oiled... means having suffiecent solid food

now i want advice from DR's (if any).. working mothers ...and any on exp similar situation .. plz tell what shd be the BEST FOR MY BABY....

and one more thing can i give bournvite milk (he like it so much) to my one yrs old baby.....
Thanks a lot for reading this post!!
Bye
HH Hetal replied. now that your baby is 11months old, his intake is expected to be approx/around :

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1270&table_name=dis_sleeping

someother tips :
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=900&table_name=dis_milestones

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=6762&table_name=dis_feeding

so if he eats and drinks well, thru out the day,,it would be unlikely that he will ask for midnight feeds,,,bf is exceptional.

now about weaning,,yes, kids above 1 year are difficult to wean,,mostly because by the time they are 1 year or say 14months,,they become more attached to breast or bottle which makes them get habituated to it..
so it becomes difficult..and rather painful,,letme add,because baby cries in some cases just to get latched...
so yes it becomes diffcult..
weaning does not happen for 1 day please note,,it takes 1 month or longer dpending on how baby and mother respond and how they are able to cope up with it.

since you are staying with your inlaws and not with your own mother,,it is better to go by the laws set by your inlaws... i know its tough to take such actions but you have to understand that you are living with your inlaws for 24x7 and if at all you are going against them, there is a possibility that your personal life will be affcted..because if your dh supports you, even if your mother in law fills his ears,,his answers will be ready for your mil and you will not get into troubles unless otherwise you have a really stubborn mil.
and because of that,,its better for you or rather let me say good for you that you continue bf...
as it is your baby is 11months and if you start weaning it is going to take around 1month for you,,,so 4months is just the time that you will be arguing with your inlaws,,,are you ready for that frustrations...you know them well, than i know,,so you have to decide aabout how far you are ready for it ! it also dpends on how argumetative or how your inlaws are..if they are calm, they will go by whatever actions you will take and once a while create and issue and may be forget,,but if you have inlaws like a continuous hammering and cont arguments that might create panic,,,you would rather like peace ! and after all bf is also good for your baby,,so its not that who wins,,what they want is good for your baby,,so you should be happy that they are considering that seriously ! and not at the cost of your baby...and weaning, is always tough,,let me tell you that,,i weaned my baby earlier than 1 year so i was tough for me,,as i had my plans to go for other pregnancy and it was for my baby as well, as she was bf twice a day and i had a good supply ! so it was tough for me when i would not attend her or leave her with my dh in order to be away and wean her off during all the breastfeeding timings....

you want to bf, continue,,just make sure you dont stretch yourself to an extent that it makes tiring for you in future...you know your baby well and how he co-operates to certain things,,so dpending on that you take decision,,judge how much time he will take to leave bf,,and acc to tht, wean him.
Bm is always good for baby,,irrespective of baby age,,now its upto mother to decide how long she can stretch it !
if its tiring for you and you no more enjoy it,,tell your dh personally at bed time when he is around that it is becoming tiring for you,,,and that even though you understand that baby needs bm and all the benefits,,if you will continue,it might affect your health in future,,as its tiring for you..if your dh is able to understand that,,good enough,,you wont need ne one else advice reg this,..start weaning your baby..also give information to your dh that if the baby has accepted solids well,,it would equally good enough and wise decision to wean him off..and that your bm wont provide him good now,as his main diet is solids and not bm !! one time bm doesnt give much nutrients as wel,,unless you are having an exceptional high milk supply !

if your baby seems to be comfortable with bournvita,,and is not showing ne other discomforts or is ABLE to take his regular food along with milk additive,,,,its fine if he continues it,,otherwise its better that he takes bournvita milk from 15months onwards..dont offer these millk additivies,,if you think your child is replacing his solids foods with milk feeds !

what is best for baby is what mother decides..so its upto you. for whatever you decide,,think about the consequences,,baby will be always hard to wean or easier to wean,,dpending on how confident mother is handling the baby during weaning or how good help you get from others during weaning,,but if you wean your baby as of now,,think about the reactions from your mother in law..what are you ready to handle,,is what you have to decide !!

if that is how works out for you,,its practical enough to stay in WIN WIN situation !

good luck and i hope everything goes smooth at your end !
good luck
Hetal replied. now that your baby is 11months old, his intake is expected to be approx/around :

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1270&table_name=dis_sleeping

someother tips :
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=900&table_name=dis_milestones

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=6762&table_name=dis_feeding

so if he eats and drinks well, thru out the day,,it would be unlikely that he will ask for midnight feeds,,,bf is exceptional.

now about weaning,,yes, kids above 1 year are difficult to wean,,mostly because by the time they are 1 year or say 14months,,they become more attached to breast or bottle which makes them get habituated to it..
so it becomes difficult..and rather painful,,letme add,because baby cries in some cases just to get latched...
so yes it becomes diffcult..
weaning does not happen for 1 day please note,,it takes 1 month or longer dpending on how baby and mother respond and how they are able to cope up with it.

since you are staying with your inlaws and not with your own mother,,it is better to go by the laws set by your inlaws... i know its tough to take such actions but you have to understand that you are living with your inlaws for 24x7 and if at all you are going against them, there is a possibility that your personal life will be affcted..because if your dh supports you, even if your mother in law fills his ears,,his answers will be ready for your mil and you will not get into troubles unless otherwise you have a really stubborn mil.
and because of that,,its better for you or rather let me say good for you that you continue bf...
as it is your baby is 11months and if you start weaning it is going to take around 1month for you,,,so 4months is just the time that you will be arguing with your inlaws,,,are you ready for that frustrations...you know them well, than i know,,so you have to decide aabout how far you are ready for it ! it also dpends on how argumetative or how your inlaws are..if they are calm, they will go by whatever actions you will take and once a while create and issue and may be forget,,but if you have inlaws like a continuous hammering and cont arguments that might create panic,,,you would rather like peace ! and after all bf is also good for your baby,,so its not that who wins,,what they want is good for your baby,,so you should be happy that they are considering that seriously ! and not at the cost of your baby...and weaning, is always tough,,let me tell you that,,i weaned my baby earlier than 1 year so i was tough for me,,as i had my plans to go for other pregnancy and it was for my baby as well, as she was bf twice a day and i had a good supply ! so it was tough for me when i would not attend her or leave her with my dh in order to be away and wean her off during all the breastfeeding timings....

you want to bf, continue,,just make sure you dont stretch yourself to an extent that it makes tiring for you in future...you know your baby well and how he co-operates to certain things,,so dpending on that you take decision,,judge how much time he will take to leave bf,,and acc to tht, wean him.
Bm is always good for baby,,irrespective of baby age,,now its upto mother to decide how long she can stretch it !
if its tiring for you and you no more enjoy it,,tell your dh personally at bed time when he is around that it is becoming tiring for you,,,and that even though you understand that baby needs bm and all the benefits,,if you will continue,it might affect your health in future,,as its tiring for you..if your dh is able to understand that,,good enough,,you wont need ne one else advice reg this,..start weaning your baby..also give information to your dh that if the baby has accepted solids well,,it would equally good enough and wise decision to wean him off..and that your bm wont provide him good now,as his main diet is solids and not bm !! one time bm doesnt give much nutrients as wel,,unless you are having an exceptional high milk supply !

if your baby seems to be comfortable with bournvita,,and is not showing ne other discomforts or is not able to take his regular food,,its fine if he continues it,,otherwise its better that he takes bournvita milk from 15months onwards..dont offer these millk additivies,,if you think your child is replacing his solids foods with milk feeds !

what is best for baby is what mother decides..so its upto you. for whatever you decide,,think about the consequences,,baby will be always hard to wean or easier to wean,,dpending on how confident mother is handling the baby during weaning or how good help you get from others during weaning,,but if you wean your baby as of now,,think about the reactions from your mother in law..what are you ready to handle,,is what you have to decide !!

if that is how works out for you,,its practical enough to stay in WIN WIN situation !

good luck and i hope everything goes smooth at your end !
good luck