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Hey all,
is there any medicine for jealosy?.my sisterinlaw prety much dominates my husband.and she takes all the money from my inlaws whom we send money for their expenses.ofcourse my mil supports her.since her husband's income is not good.but thats ok with me, but she is very arrogant and she trys to control me, my husband and unfortunately my husband doesn't believe that.she got lot of jealosy against me, since i am in a lot better position than her financialy.the words comes out of her mouth all bitternesss.she spends the money we send lavishly,and she wants to get hold of my hubby.i literraly stoped talking to her, and i am being very deplomatic with her.but same time i have to see my hubbys fallen face, if i don't talk to them.i refuse to go to his house, since she lives there.again i have to face my husbands anger.he expects me to take all the shit she talks.the root cause of her problem is jealosy!!.any solutions or medicines for this?. SR replied. Yes, gals,
you should develop patience to bear such creatures. The scenario described by RR abt fuss created by her SIL that she(SIL) also wants to work and Etc. were exactly matching as in my case. That was a old story, 3 years back. 1 year back we were blessed with a baby boy, she didn't allow my IL's to stay with us to take care of my kid (I am working) saying that she needs their presence as she was carrying second kid(she is housewife) and i had to struggle a lot to bring up my son. Care takers used to disappear suddenly and i had to apply leave and arrange someone else and faced lot many problems.
That is also a old story.
Now latest story is, she wants my IL's to stay with them to take care of her second kid as it is difficult for her to manage herself! See, how mean people will be! I have not given up! I have one good care-taker at home and in near by days, i am planning to put my son in a good creche for half day. I will have both care-taker at home as well the day care option, so that i will have less tension.
Of all, the most strange thing is, my IL's support her and i don't know the reason.
Some times, i feel very disturbed & irritated, since my son is deprived of grand parent's love just because of her jealousness.
You will learn a lot as and when you meet such people. You just have to take the positive side of it.
Stay calm and speak when you get an opportunity, it will reduce your disturbance(but increase her jealousness again!).
With Best wishes to all likely people,
SR
RR replied. yes this is the only medicine..
my story is almost the same as yours..
because of her jealousy she used to bad mouth me. and also.. just a few days after our marriage.. she made a fuss that she also want to work and all.. she started to find out various courses and asked us to pay the fees and all. Now, when we are not staying together.. she no longer wants to work ..
so, i guess this is a common problem and you just ignore her. IndianWoman replied. There is no medicine for jealousy esp. if the one having it is sis-in-law! Be frank with your husband and tell him that you can be nice only to people who are nice to you. For his sake you are suffering does he want you to suffer like this? I think all sis-in-laws are like this! My sis-in-law takes takes and takes so much I don't know what to tell! Nothing she returns but nicely she yaps as though she is returning everything! What to do these species are like that only. Same story here...but be firm...and don't be angry but be firm...There is no need to suffer her jealosy...