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Hi everyone,
I am surprised to listen that most of us are sailing on the same boat. even i have similar problems with my inlaws. My inlaws tell my parents that i am like a daughter to them and then they treat me like a dirt when no one is around. i was shocked to see how they behaved when they were with us in US. i was imagining good behaviour from them. they told everyone that they are going to help me around my pregnancy and made me do all the work till my 9th month. i used to have morning sickness till 6th month and inspite of that i was doing all the work ....though i was unable to do. to add to this my mother-in-laws brothers daughter(unmarried) was staying with us. she had the idea that she was my sisiter-in-law and started demanding work from me. when confronted to my husband ...he used to say you have to adjust because they are my parents....and ask me to adjust for his sake. but for other major fight he was supportive. i was keeping quiet for everything till now....but hereafterwards i am not going to keep quiet and i will surely keep my foot down and tell what i feel ....they are going to see the change. you all are my inspirations. thanks
mine Friend replied. Hi - I know exactly where you are coming from my friend. My in-laws said the same and my mil did do a lot after my pregnancy but then she threw it in my face and my parents and accused us of not helping her. I had a difficult delivery and she couldn't deal with the fact that she had to do all the work, because my husband didn't do anything and they refused outside food. My parents were blamed for a lot and there was a major fight between the families. I stayed quiet because I was afraid of losing my baby and my family but I regret doing that. I wish I had talked back at that moment because my parents and I would not be hurt as much as we are now. My marriage has suffered and continues to suffer because this is something I will never forget or get out of mind and I don't intend on ever letting go. Those memories give me the strength to fight back at every moment I need to.

I wish you lots of love and support and I know you can do it as all of us can do it when we put our minds to it. Let us all be strong and not let anyone walk over us.