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juvinile
no you are wrong.my hubby is not like that.he has no male ego in front of me.he is very strong man and respect me as well.he gave me all the rights to ask anything-anytime to him.more over he never feel irritated if i ask again and again.so it depends upon person to person.may be there are some people who love them self more than anybody but there are those type of people also who love others more then anything,not because you are nice with them because they nice from inside for everybody.
bye

hey k and girl, you girls a lot ignorant that i guessed, actually in positive sense. Whatever i said is all true and if you are living a happy married life, 50 % credit goes to you also. If your man is not your slave then think of those things which make your life happy. Why do you think hasnt he gone for some other lady? You would say he loves you, buy why should he love you? only because there is something in you that makes he to love you. And remember there are two things in marriage one is commitment and other is love. One has to be committed even if there is no love between the two, after all that is what makes a marriage. So dont think that your husbands are veryyyy nice out of their own. You contribute a lot to their niceness!!! Probably some of the things that i said like nagging, pestering, suspecting without reason, you dont do all these things and even if you do you do it lovingly. Love begets love, have you heard of this. And he definitely would be having a male ego, may be he is not ready to accept it. I am running short of time, next time i shall give you some examples. Just think about my points and dont just get angry over the comments. It is a discussion.

And for the original poster, if that is your problem. then there are many ways to do this:
1. give him a call and tell him all you know.
2. send an email from
3. send a anonymous letter
4. keep a message in his answering machine
5. send sms to his mobile
6. call them to your home and discuss this problem openly ( i think this is best option)

thanks
juvinile

no one like a man like you. believe me you are the most selfish person in this world. today no one think like you not even man.my husband is very nice and hepling all the time. all man around us including family are very simple from heart,they never think that there is something called 'male ego' which can stop them to do nice behave with their wives. well i think u should also change your thinking now otherwise your wife will never be haapy in her life like we are.so sorry for her because her hubby thinks like that.

What a crap!
He has to get satisfied
Sexually
Emotionally and on top of all pamper his
Male Ego.
Wow, I bet Juvinile if your wife is not altruistic one then start counting remaining years of your marriage, she will give up on this marriage sooner or later.
Girl

Hi all,

I expected such replies from you all. You dont understand the basic psyche of a male in general. We dont like pestering and questioning. A married person expects two types of satisfaction from his wife. 1. Sexual satisfaction, 2. emotional satisfaction. To your surprise let me tell you extra marital affairs come because of the emotional satisfaction. Sex may be a slight part of it, but eventually that doesnt last long. A typical wife is not able to give emotional satisfaction to her husband and that is why all these things result. I am not saying the husband is not at fault. If he has married he should stay within bounds of this commitment. He is totally wrong but you add fuel to fire. You question his every step, you pester him. you suspect his every move. you feel jealous ( accept that there are more beautiful women than you ). you nag him. you simply turn him off. Give a man his personal space which he is always fond of. (See that doesnt mean that a man doesnt do anything wrong) but at least you try to be good ( being good is also relative, think from his point of view). And please accept that there is something called "male ego". It is genetically there. So why force when you can do the same with request. Win a person with love and care than suspicion and orders. If you have any doubts in this discussion I shall clear them.
And see no women is going to give you advice which is going to bring you and your husband close - in case you want that.

hi juvinile
you are wrong,i'm sure you must be doing all this with your wife too that's why you are saying like that.
i'm totally agree with 'G'.she should stop her hubby as soon as possible.this is not good to continue that type of relation specially when your one partner is not comfertable with that.more over she is not a family member,she is another lady. so it's doesn't necessary to continue that type of relation with her.she is saying they both keep looking for opportunity to talk each other,that's not good.
if he needs a friend then he can talk to his wife.she can also be a good friend.
well this is my opinion that a husband-wife relation is more important than other relations.if they both are happy then they both can maintain other relations.
k

Why should not she suspect, after all he is continuing seeing her even if she mentioned not to.
If her husband loved her he would give up on talking to that other lady.
Your suggestion is absolutely invalid and asking to follow altruisting behaviour, which will only kill her marriage slowly, as it is she is facing chronic problem.
G