Name: sumathi
I have the same problem. I am a doctorate degree holder and i am also working. Still there is too much of jealousy from my mil and sil (she also stays in the same country, luckily far away). I have been married for an year and a half. Right from the beginning my husband behaved like a psycho, he was suspecting my every phone calls to my family thinking i am complaining about his sister. Later his sister visited us and she created such a scene and he behaved in violent way, hit me. I called my sister and let her know. I asked him not to believe his sister's comments. For that he called many of my relatives and told them i am behaving badly and i hit him. I got frustrated and scolded him.
After that we were again let to live in peace and me and my husband understood each other. Now his parents came. I worked in the office, did all the household works, massaged her, gave her my jewels, even let her to sleep next to my hubby and i slept alone. I thought this would ease our relationship. Now i learnt she is still not satisfied. My sil also had come and now they are making stories. They are complaining to my husband everyday - like i didn't keep the vegs. in zip lock, i didn't use their gifts, i used turmeric with hand instead of spoon (completely absurd). My husband is suffering and i am suffering the most. They insulted my family many times, prevented my huband to take me for short pleasure trips, stopped me from visiting my relatives. On the other hand they are receiving all the helps from my relatives.
His sister and mother are trying to pose a play that they both keep their husbands happily and their selection of me as their bahu is totally wrong. However my fil is supporting me, he is the one who tells about what they talk in my absence.
My husband knows they are not behaving properly. But still he wants me to keep quiet for everything.
I am feeling very sick. If my husband supports me, he has to suffer. If not i have to suffer. Though he is aware of the situation, it is too difficult for him to accept the fact that his mother and sister are bad. I don't know how our life will go. When they are away they constantly give us trouble s over phone.
Definitely this is not the life i want. Though i am married, it is like i am living alone. Life is tougher than before marriage, now i have to do my works, and all the others works and still no appreciation. Being educated and earning do i have to put up with this?
I don't mink working hard, but i cannot stand the bad name they are giving me and the mental torture.
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