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Hi,
We have a 5 year old son.
He is very shy.won't greet anyone or respond back to greeting. He won't initiate conversation with his best friend also..says the other person should first talk to him...
Also if we take him to some one else's house he is very shy and hides behind us.

At home he is completely different...always active..asking questions every second ...like TV and computer games ..but we limit that to 1-2 hours a day...

He does go to school and there also won't greet anyone...wonder what's missing...or is this just a phase...

on asking why he does not greet..he says because he is feeling shy...he learned about the word shy when few people said that when he was there...we don't call him shy or discuss his behaviour in his prescence usha parolkar replied. my child is about 4 years old. she is our only child.she mixes well with her peers in school and also at home when visitors come.
She does not even open her mouth to greet or answer questions when others especially elders come to our house. This happens even if they are our regular visitors even for a year.
she is fluent with her parents and grandparents
she does not open her mouth in the school also when it comes to a question nof speaking in front of teachers or in functions. But speaks very well in the class with her peers.
what type of intervention should we do? Sree replied. My son just turned 5ys. He was shy too. But now he won't stop talking. Always asking questions or telling stories etc.

It was no magic.
This happens with lot of single kids.

All we did was let him go to his friend's house for sleepovers and invited his friends for sleepovers.
Most imp. Thing we did was let him resolve problems with his friends and gave him his space. vs replied. You have to give your son more oppurtunities to be with children his age. Sometimes changing houses,schools frequently also makes them a little insecure and so shy. If the parents are introverts the children are also likely to be shy. Invite his best friends over on weekends and let them play alone. Plan outings to the playground with his friends in the evenings. Let them watch their favorite cartoon movie together. My children are lively with other children but never wish adults no matter how close. I have now given up on that.