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hi ladies, wanted your advise. my hubby and i have a pretty good marriage, apart from when there is interference from his mother. She will interfere in anything = from what's there for dinner to where we will live in the next 10 years. Without her, my hubby is very weak. So now, each time my hubby is hesitant about anything, I automatically link it back to his mother being invovled.

As usual he's only child, dominating mother, etc. I have a feeling if I went and spoke to his mother to give us some space and not to interfere in our marriage so much, it has a good chance to work. But what I dont understand is what my hubby wants. I have a feeling that he does want his mother to be there everywhere. It's his security. Is that normal to face in such a grown up man (35 yrs). I am very confused about what my hubby wants in this marriage, ie if he's happy to let his mother make decisions for us, or if he's scared of her, as she's very dominiating and perhaps he is emotionally black mailed by her, as they are in a family business and she is there too. I have spoken to my hubby about this several times and he is silent - he does not say anything ! I am bold enuf to speak to his mother, but I dont know if it will jepordise our marriage and if my hubby will not trust me anymore. He automatically listens to her for everything and I dont know if he's doing it on purpose (just lazy) or what. I am very confused. Can you please advise. I know that I cannot live with it anymore.... kul replied. hi
Just ask you hubby ( in showy anger) that you are going to talk to your mother. and then see his reponse. According to his reponse U can do anything further. Bcoz your MIL can lie to your husband about U and your treatment to her.
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