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I need some advise.I hope everyone who reads my message understand my problem and help me to find some solution. I got married 4 years back and came to US.My husband had an elder brother staying here(who recently shifted to india) in US for last 10 years.My husband came to US 5 years back.My husband and his elder brother's wife, they used to talk everyday on phone before I got married and even mostly everyday after I came here. My sister-in-law is very free with my husband in talking. From the day I came here, she is torturing me alot on phone, pass comments to me, always tries to hurt me on phone.She tries to show me that you are nothing in front of me and I can ask you any thing regarding my husband and you are suppossed to answer me.Whenever she talk to me, her talks are only about my husband. Any girl who got newly married will defetinely have doubts regarding her hubby and sister -in-law relation if such things happen from firt day of her marriage. Iam from a very strict family where my parents kept me very secure and very discilpined.
Even now when she is in India, she is continuing her same nature with me.
My problem is I don't undersatnd how to teach her lesson and show her that you are the worst lady on this earth who herself don't know how to stay with peace and doesn't allow others also.
I always have to talk nicely to her becos of relation which I don't want. I mean I somehow want to hurt her greatly and at the same time wamt that my husband also does not come to know about it.I somehow want to make my husband realize that she is very very idiot lady....
Thanks LA replied. just sounds like she thinks she has more right to him. Don't answer her questions, you don't have to. If she wants to know something, tell her u are not comfortable with giving that information and that she should go to your husband for it.

I think she is trying to make u mad and jealous of her. I wouldn't assume it had anything to do with your husband. He probably just thinks of her as an older sister he can go to for advice.

Discuss her attitude with you with your husband. And don't be general or say what you think she is doing but be specific about things she has done that are inappropriate.

Women are botches sometimes. She is jealous probably because your husband depended on her for so many things and now is looking to you for many things and not hert anymore. She feels neglected. Feel bad for her. Come on replied. Listen up, no relationship survives on insults. This lady, bitch, crap needs to respect you. Your husband, also needs to listen your needs. Everything has to be out in the open. Maybe, this is where I am different. Life, is tough enough as it is. Why people misbehave. Why?? what joy do they get out of hurting people. Where do you live?? Please watch Minister Joel Osteen. Tell all your friends to do the same. After the Messiah, he is a breath of fresh air. All of your problems will be resolved. I will pray for you!! vs replied. I think your sil is insecure. She inwardly thinks she is not upto you and so the behavior. My sil also behaves this way though she is a very nice person. Maybe jealosy can make people behave unreasonably. Just take her words coolly and talk to the point. Keep your cool and calm and change the topic if you find it irritating. Behave dignified and your husband will see the difference between you both in no time. rani replied. Thanks juvinile.You are right its her ego....She wants to show herself that she can do anything to me and for this she keeps trying. I ignore her alot.
Regards
Rani
Friend replied. I can understand your concern about the relationship. I am agree with juvinile. You should give her least importance. Make sure that your husband and she do not get in contact even on the phone. Take ur hubby in confidence. Show your love and affection towards him. Once your hubby starts ignoring her then she will stop disturbing both of u.



juvinile replied. i think the problem with her is her ego. when you talk nicely to her and are afraid of her in front of her. it boosts her ego and she is prompted to do these things again. so better ignore her. dont give her least importance, see if that works.