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hello everyone,thanks for the replies.i hope you all have seen the pictures. i had to deactivate temporarily yesteday but they are on today.
i am ecouraged by your replies to give my marriage another shot.i am still waiting for more replies from everyone.
as for reema please ignore her. i am a very educated girl who lived all my life here in usa and all my friends are the same.after reading reema's post i had to laugh because her english is so pathetic that there is no chance she could know even a didtant relative of any of my friends.she is just talking crap.
reema if u know anyone i know like u claim then tell me something about my family,where does my husband work or in which grade is my daughter or anything.oh anyways forget it you will make that up too,so actually no,you should go ahead and tell the story of my husband that my friend told you and also i have activated my site so please quickly call my husband and let him know whats going on.boy i needed a good laugh so thanks anyway.
take care all my other friends i appreciate your advice god bless u all.
beeno beeno replied. thanks a lot for the replies and the advice friends.Ami,Sneh and Sapna,your advices have really made me think.
i am feeling a lot better now and also a bit ashamed about how i was feeling before.i am going to try and make my marriage work.i love my husband a lot but it's just these little things that bother me more than they should.i also think that if he loves me he would try and make me happy by doing the little things that i would like him to do.
well but he is a great husband a doting father to zaina and i cannot ever deny that.
thank u all and i will keep in touch through this wonderful forum.
take care
beeno
sapna replied. Hello beeno,

I saw all the pictures. Let me say this to you - you are gorgeous, may be your husband is not rated as high as you but he is also good looking guy. I didn't forget your little darling, she is a doll. Why are you thinking about this crap (Excuse me) now? I mean you have a wonderful husband and a beautiful and healthy baby, what else do you need to lead life peacefully. You know most of us are not that fortunate. Just think twice, does looks really matter?
Plus dear your husband is not at all bad looking. Just encourage him to keep an eye on his weight if it bothers you. Most of all you need to think about your daughter, she doesn’t deserve all this. Let’s say you leave your husband, do you think the prince charming, handsome guy that you are going to pick in the future will have the same bond that Zania and Abbas has now. Your husband mentioned in his profile that his interests are you and your daughter. It shows that he surely loves you and cares for you which will be easy for you to mold him according to the way you want him. Don’t ever compare yourself with other couples; everybody has something unique in them. Once when you change your attitude towards your husband, like picking the positives you will be able to adore him and I think then only you will be more comfortable in your private life. My honest and friendly advice to you is - giving it a chance. I can see that you are educated and mature women please make a right decision.

I am also 24 and usually I will just see the queries and the replies hoping to learn from the experienced women. But this time I was really touched by this query and I don’t want you to take a wrong step especially because a little sweetheart is involved.Hope I didn't hurt you with my opinion.
sneh replied. hii beeno,
that were really great puictures i saw them twice you are really beautiful and hey hey your husband is not that bad looking and yes your daughter is thee cutest
i want you to know my story before reaching upon any decission ...i was from a indian middle class family alwqys taught to respect relations parents and never to dream beyond boundaries. but i was always a rebellious kind in my heart ...i had affairs before getting married and i wanted all the lifes best for me (...hey i amm also very good looking tall and my friends also suggested me modelling and i have done it for local products back home,i was the talk of town kind of girl )
so i goytt many boys running head over heels for me ...so i fell in klove with this guy and against my parents wish married him (in a mandir,this helped me as i had not to file a divorce)...life was definately beautiful for few months ...this guy ..lets call him x took me as a thing to boast of ..to show his circle that see what i have ...as if i was his achievement (most of men do that)he ill treated me a lot of time made me cry almost every day but yes he also said he was sorry cos he needed sex ,gradually he started suspecting me and things went worse he slapped me a couple of times
and as if this was not enough i later found oiut he is having an affair with another girl who was not so beautiful i mean below average .when i asked him why he said that she is the one he wants to be with and she is beautiful in his eyes .
i went through so much of pain ..it was like some one has stabbed me in my heart with many knives ...i decided to suicide i went to a temple and cried a lot in front of god and asked yyy
al i wanted was love and this is what i got... but some how i couldnt gather courage to kill my self ...my parents came to know of it and they called me back home ...but i just couldnt get over the pain i started putting lots of weight and also went into depression i had to take medication for it
but god was kind enough my parents started looking for another match and married me to another guy who was 9 years elder to me and ok looking
but believe me beeno i am veryy happy with him today ..we moved to usa have a lovely daughter and he has never spoken rudely to me or even raised finger at me he loves me soo much and is really best father ....
you know when i was sick once he took care of me my daughter and woke up in middle of night to check temp and give me medicine i fell sick once when i was with x and he (went with his girl friend making an xcuse that he has some urgent work)...he aldo lost his job in 2002 for 6 bmonths we were in crisis but he bought me a leather jacket as i needed one and never said any thing just hugged me when he felt bad ....i always compare him with xand always my eyes are filled with tears of happiness i thank god .
beeno now i am a full time house wife in my thirtes i have learned a lot in my life .
beeno please think abut your life not twice but 100 times and remember beauty fades with timee ...but love never
(sorry for typos andpoor english.)


Ami replied. Hi Beeno,

I saw your pictures and you are very good looking. I couldn't see your husband's picture clearly but he doesn't look too bad.

Your husband loves you like crazy and he seems like a wonderful father too. Looks really don't matter. Like they say beauty is just skin deep, what matters really is what's inside. You could encourage him to loose weight and I am sure with a proper diet and exercise regime he will be fit in no time. Also, may be you can take him shopping and buy some different type of clothes than what he is wearing now - just to give him a different image. How about a new hair style. These things can really change one's appearance.

Try and look at his positive points and get attracted to those. Believe me good looking husbands sometimes (and I don't mean to generalize) are just good to look at and don't treat their wives well. All marriages go through rough patches and not everyone looks chummy and cosy together have a great marrige.

Just enjoy your life together and work towards building a stronger relationship, which will result in a stronger marriage. All the best and don't let posts of the Reema kind bother you - she's just plain stupid!! All the best. Reema replied. Laugh i found email address as my friend is premium member of naseeb. i am just sending him salam and email too by coping your message to him all the best