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HI!

This is my first time posting here, but I need to share my feelings with others having in law problems.

My husband,daughter and I live in the USA and his whole family lives in India. We have been married 7 years and I have come to really hate them over the years.(I have really tried to be a good daughter in law)

His sister is a huge problem. She is the youngest daughter, two older brothers(my hubby the oldest) and her entire family treats her like the queen! She is the only girl in my mother-in-laws family, so she's considered very important(all her uncles and male cousins treat her as their own) She is considered to be most beautiful, intelligent, and my in-laws cannot talk of anyone else but her. What bothers me is her attitude. She's so snotty and always says how everybody loves her. She always ignores me or bosses me around. We've been to India 3 times since our marriage and she's always trying to talk to my husband. She ignores the fact that I'm even there unless it's to force me to wear more jewelry. My husband supports me, and she cannot stand that. If I defend myself, she tells her whole family bad things about me. My husbands parents came here for a few months and they constantly critisized and taunted me the whole time while I chauffered my father-in-law to a job and took care of a toddler and housework. They only address my husband in conversations, and critisize my parenting, cleaning, cooking, skills while only praising their daughter. Their daughter doesn't live with in-laws, has a nanny, cook, maid, and chauffer. They even told me directly that I'm the daughter in law, and that I need to adapt to them, and my husband should be closer to his sister than me, his wife.

Anyway there's just too many things that bother me about them, but I'm getting angry and depressed of how they treat me, and just want to cope better. If anybody has suggestions, thanks in advance. PRS replied. Hello Peb,
It must be very painful, isnt it? But don't worry. Just think that the most important people in your life are your hubby & child. Ignore everything else. Try to be happy with your hubby and kid's happiness. Take care. desigirl replied. Hey peb
i am sorry that you are going thru this. but consider yourself lucky, atleast your husband is supporting you. in some cases a husband doesn't support, and only takes there sides. like seema said you just take care of your family. and as long as you are happy with your daugher and husband, ignore them. and try to be good, but if they can't accept that leave it. and concentrate on your family seema replied. i can understand your problem. i am passing same here. but one big problem is my sisilaw leaves near to my house. so when my inlaws come from india my life is horrible. otherwise me, my husband and my two kids are so happy. but now i just fight back with them. she is rich compare to us and she took my inlaws everywhere and our side we both working hard for our and our kids future. but hope inlaws dont understand that. they dont see son happyness they more see there daughter money and all fun stff she can buy from money. but thats ok.

i dont care now. i am happy with my kids and not paying attension to them. hey peb they always look there daughter first we have always last prefrance but in case like me and you we dont have chance. even my mil say i am just like there daughter but i am not there daughter.

forget give more imp to your life then there.

all the best