Its just days now since i have been detected as pregnant.I shall be soon starting with the checkups.Being in an orthodox Marwari family I am only allowed to wear saree while going out & so also during the checkup.Not much idea about the checkup being done but I think the sonography should be fine even with the saree on as only a shifting is required.But how do U think the vaginal checkup could be done.Do u have any iea about it.Please give me some feedback on theat & also on how low I should wear the saree.Moreover will the doctor allow me to come in a saree for the checkup I mean do other women as well come that way.Please do let me know.
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Its just days now since i have been detected as pregnant.I shall be soon starting with the checkups.Being in an orthodox Marwari family I am only allowed to wear saree while going out & so also during the checkup.Not much idea about the checkup being done but I think the sonography should be fine even with the saree on as only a shifting is required.But how do U think the vaginal checkup could be done.Do u have any iea about it.Please give me some feedback on theat & also on how low I should wear the saree.Moreover will the doctor allow me to come in a saree for the checkup I mean do other women as well come that way.Please do let me know.
Thanks.
Amie replied. First many many congrats on being pregnant. I wish you a healthy pregnancy and a normal delivery of your child. I am myself an obstetrician so you are always welcome to contact me on my email. I shall be more than glad to furnish you the required information :) well as far as your question about wearing the saree is concerned, i would suggest you to please wear shalwar or lehenga especially in the last two months of your pregnancy when you go for your check up. As you have already mentioned that vaginal check up would be a difficult phase in case you wear a saree. Ultrasound is also ok but becomes difficult if you wear saree above your navel. Even in the ultrasound, it becomes difficult as in the ulltrasound especially focuses on the lower abdomen just above the pubic bones and therefore if the saree is tied above or near the navel even, it has to loosened downward to expose full abdomen. But since vaginal check up is the most integral part of the check up in the last month especially, therefore, i wud recommend you not to wear saree at that time. There are different ways of doing check up when the patient wears saree, either the patient lifts the saree and outer skirt above her vagina and expose the same or take off the saree, lie on the couch and then lift the outer skirt above or another way is to take off both saree and outer skirt and lie nude on the couch from waist down. Sometimes, the patients find it humilating and just lift their sarees and skirts above the knees and bend them and ask the doctor to have an unseen access to her vagina for the checkup. Any of the cases, there is not only inconvenient for the patient buut also time consuming. Therefore, I suggest my patients to wear shalwar, lehenga or a maxi when they come for check ups. In case of shalwar, you just need to pull it down to your knees or a little downward by minimum of discomfort and slight lift of your hips and in case of lehenga or maxi, you just need to pull it up to your abdomen. I think, you have time so better convince your inlaws to allow you to leave wearing saree especially for going for a checkups in the last two months. Also would like to tell that dont wear panties/under wear when you go for a check up. I hope that you will get in touch with me soon on my email. Take care Sneha and enjoy ur pregnancy :)
Aboli replied. Dear Sneha,
I am also from a very traditional marwari family, so I can understand your problem. First of all, as Archie said, there should not be any problems in checkup with saree. You don't have to wear it lower or anything. You can just loosen the nada of your lehanga a bit and it should work fine. I am not sure how comfortable you feel in saree. If you don't feel very comfortable in saree, then you can talk with ur hubby to convince your in-law's to let you wear salwar. If you are okay with saree and always wear it, then no need to change it just for the sake of check-ups. I am assuming that you are in India right now. In that case, you don't have to worry at all as all the doctors are used to of checking up women with saree only. More than 50% of women wear the sarees only.
BTW, I would like to know more about you, that is from where you are and all. It is nice to see someone from marwari community on this board.
Love,
Aboli.
Sneha replied. First of all thanks a lot for having answered my question.I guess with the way the check as U both said would take place with a saree on it could be very muc difficult.Actually I thought the checkp would take place on the portions just below ar around the belly button but I guess I was wrong.anyways have got to work with it now.And yes u did not tell me how low to wear the saree while coming for the checkup.Would it be helpful if i wear it 2-3 inches below my belly button.Because anyways I & my hubby shall be going by car to the clinic & so its just a matter of a few steps with that & so no probs i guess so.
And yes would the doctor wear a gloves during the checkup(just a query),even for the examining the stomach ?.
And what was the prenatal checkup that u mentioned u were going through what does it mean ?
Do reply ack to my questons quickly
Bye & thanks.
Archie replied. Dear Sneha,
Sway your thoughts and any fear.
You can wear saree as long as weather allows you to.
I go to Prenatal checkups with saree and my Dr. does not mind. At first why should she mind? Afterall it's a dress of Indian.
About checkups:
You will not be comfortable doing transvaginal ultrasound with saree on. So you should admit that you will have to wear gown provided by Drs. office, helpful for you as well.
From the second appointment onward your Dr. will monitor things on abdomen, so you can loose saree and he/she will check you up.
As you near the term that's last 4-5 weeks here in USA Dr. will check you internally to investigate on cervix dilation.
With winter weather wearing saree can be difficult (if you live in colder region) while in summer or some warm timings saree is the most comfortable costume.
As you enter in third trimester it's advised to wear thin, loose cloths and I think nothing can compensate Saree or Lehnga.
Hope this is of some help.
Archie
neelam replied. hi there ,
well here in the US the doctors at the frist check up make u undress fully and give a special gown to wear .
and for other checkup in late pregnancy they check uup internally(vaginal).
so i don't think wearing a saree wud be of any dificulty while check ups are done .
only if for the first check upu have to undress urself andall then its a problem to wear the saree all over again in the check up room !
its not much convenient though for a pregnnat woman to wear saree .But not much of a problem if it intreferes with ur religious values !
enjoy being pregnant
bye
neelam
2004-07-06
#1
Name: Amie Subject: Advice
First many many congrats on being pregnant. I wish you a healthy pregnancy and a normal delivery of your child. I am myself an obstetrician so you are always welcome to contact me on my email. I shall be more than glad to furnish you the required information :) well as far as your question about wearing the saree is concerned, i would suggest you to please wear shalwar or lehenga especially in the last two months of your pregnancy when you go for your check up. As you have already mentioned that vaginal check up would be a difficult phase in case you wear a saree. Ultrasound is also ok but becomes difficult if you wear saree above your navel. Even in the ultrasound, it becomes difficult as in the ulltrasound especially focuses on the lower abdomen just above the pubic bones and therefore if the saree is tied above or near the navel even, it has to loosened downward to expose full abdomen. But since vaginal check up is the most integral part of the check up in the last month especially, therefore, i wud recommend you not to wear saree at that time. There are different ways of doing check up when the patient wears saree, either the patient lifts the saree and outer skirt above her vagina and expose the same or take off the saree, lie on the couch and then lift the outer skirt above or another way is to take off both saree and outer skirt and lie nude on the couch from waist down. Sometimes, the patients find it humilating and just lift their sarees and skirts above the knees and bend them and ask the doctor to have an unseen access to her vagina for the checkup. Any of the cases, there is not only inconvenient for the patient buut also time consuming. Therefore, I suggest my patients to wear shalwar, lehenga or a maxi when they come for check ups. In case of shalwar, you just need to pull it down to your knees or a little downward by minimum of discomfort and slight lift of your hips and in case of lehenga or maxi, you just need to pull it up to your abdomen. I think, you have time so better convince your inlaws to allow you to leave wearing saree especially for going for a checkups in the last two months. Also would like to tell that dont wear panties/under wear when you go for a check up. I hope that you will get in touch with me soon on my email. Take care Sneha and enjoy ur pregnancy :)
2004-05-11
#2
Name: Aboli Subject: Hi Sneha
Dear Sneha,
I am also from a very traditional marwari family, so I can understand your problem. First of all, as Archie said, there should not be any problems in checkup with saree. You don't have to wear it lower or anything. You can just loosen the nada of your lehanga a bit and it should work fine. I am not sure how comfortable you feel in saree. If you don't feel very comfortable in saree, then you can talk with ur hubby to convince your in-law's to let you wear salwar. If you are okay with saree and always wear it, then no need to change it just for the sake of check-ups. I am assuming that you are in India right now. In that case, you don't have to worry at all as all the doctors are used to of checking up women with saree only. More than 50% of women wear the sarees only.
BTW, I would like to know more about you, that is from where you are and all. It is nice to see someone from marwari community on this board.
Love,
Aboli.
2004-05-07
#3
Name: Sneha Subject: Thanks & some questions.
First of all thanks a lot for having answered my question.I guess with the way the check as U both said would take place with a saree on it could be very muc difficult.Actually I thought the checkp would take place on the portions just below ar around the belly button but I guess I was wrong.anyways have got to work with it now.And yes u did not tell me how low to wear the saree while coming for the checkup.Would it be helpful if i wear it 2-3 inches below my belly button.Because anyways I & my hubby shall be going by car to the clinic & so its just a matter of a few steps with that & so no probs i guess so.
And yes would the doctor wear a gloves during the checkup(just a query),even for the examining the stomach ?.
And what was the prenatal checkup that u mentioned u were going through what does it mean ?
Do reply ack to my questons quickly
Bye & thanks.
2004-05-09
#4
Name: Mamata Subject: Dont go for a saree.
As Sidddharth adviced I would say go for a salwar or something like that.In saree it would require U to lower the saree in the clinic itself.And lowering it alone at times wont help.U cant lower it down to the abdomen can U ?.No.
so better option is go for a salwar or may be best T shirt or so.A salwar would require only the lifting up of top.U can wear it as down as U want as nothing would be visible unlike as in case of the saree which would show the full tummy side view which is not an appropriate thing especially in a clinic.Even on the table U would feel a bit consious sort of.The reason why I tell it because this thing happens in my cousin brothers clinic all the time.Whenever woman come in saree for problems related to stomach or so they mostly wear it 3 inches above the navel for which he has always got to request them to lower it a bit.Secondly whenever he just looks behind for something or just pauses for a second they tend to cover the tummy with the saree.Then he has to set aside it again which gives a kind of strange expression on their face.He says such a thing never happens in case when women wear salwar or T-shirt.So may be its all in the mind of us Indian women.We are not as yet grown to these things.Fact!!!.
Along time back I had read in this helpline itself about a girl who used to feel uncomfortable when teh male doc used to press on her tummy for a checkup.Now tell me is tummy a private part of the body.But still we are all like that.So the better option is dont wear a saree & no male doc for this please.Ask your in laws to adjust a bit.It is your pregnancy & U have a full right of opinon to it.
All the best.
2004-05-07
#5
Name: Archie Subject: Saree
Dear Sneha,
You can wear normal saree just the way you wear always.
Your Dr. will want you to bring it down when check up is needed.
It's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed off to do that. It's part of check up. And this is going for your baby.
If you are not going to be comfortable with male OB then go for female.
Dr. will wear gloves only when internal examination is performed. NO need to wear gloves when examining your belly:)
Dr. do worry for hygine and infections much more than you may be worried.
Visits/checkup during pregnancy before delivery are called Prenatal check up.
Good luck
Archie
2004-05-07
#6
Name: Siddharth Subject: To U sneha
Saying a few things to U very very frankly with my experience.First of all if your doc is a male then just change him.I mean go to a female doc & do a favour to your hubby for that.It happened during the birth of our first baby.Initially we both had planned to for a male gynae.My wife had imagined the checkup would be done with the doctor touching her tummy above the clothing.Just as the doc shifted off her saree she gave me a blank look.After that each touch the doc made she used to hold her breath & loking carefully at what the doc was trying to do.As soon as we reached home I asked her if we needed to change the doc & she said it was OK & no prob trying to be very brave.During the second checkup when the doc asked her to put the saree down she just got up & said have to go home saying that she was not comfortable with the touching.I was embarrased to death to leave the clinic apologising to the doc.But it wasnt over.During the checkups with the second doc(female) she was wearing the saree till the 5th checkup it was even more worse.For the abdominal checkup she had to put it down till the bottom which practicaly meant taking off the saree from the skirt portion.This was done with herself all the time trying to adjust the saree during the checkup & to make it worse asking me to help her wear the saree after the checkup was done.To which U wont beleive it even the doc used to blush at me.But coulnt help it and to do it for my sweetheart.But later on it was just the salwar kameez which was more comfortable for her as it only required taking off the naada & lowering it down.So even U go for the same instead of a saree only to make it more comfortable.So just keep these points in mind pl dont torture your hubby.Because looking at your questions it does look like your hubby is gonna have a tough time.Remember the only mistake he has done is to make U pregnant.Dont punish him for it this way.Just joking sneha all the best,have a nice pregnancy & yes do keep in mind these few points I have mentioned.
Bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2004-05-06
#7
Name: Archie Subject: Not a problem at all!!!!!
Dear Sneha,
Sway your thoughts and any fear.
You can wear saree as long as weather allows you to.
I go to Prenatal checkups with saree and my Dr. does not mind. At first why should she mind? Afterall it's a dress of Indian.
About checkups:
You will not be comfortable doing transvaginal ultrasound with saree on. So you should admit that you will have to wear gown provided by Drs. office, helpful for you as well.
From the second appointment onward your Dr. will monitor things on abdomen, so you can loose saree and he/she will check you up.
As you near the term that's last 4-5 weeks here in USA Dr. will check you internally to investigate on cervix dilation.
With winter weather wearing saree can be difficult (if you live in colder region) while in summer or some warm timings saree is the most comfortable costume.
As you enter in third trimester it's advised to wear thin, loose cloths and I think nothing can compensate Saree or Lehnga.
Hope this is of some help.
Archie
2004-05-06
#8
Name: neelam Subject: hi
hi there ,
well here in the US the doctors at the frist check up make u undress fully and give a special gown to wear .
and for other checkup in late pregnancy they check uup internally(vaginal).
so i don't think wearing a saree wud be of any dificulty while check ups are done .
only if for the first check upu have to undress urself andall then its a problem to wear the saree all over again in the check up room !
its not much convenient though for a pregnnat woman to wear saree .But not much of a problem if it intreferes with ur religious values !
enjoy being pregnant
bye
neelam
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