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2004-04-30

Name: Customs Hey, Can anyone tell me what are the north indian customs both the mother-to-be's side and the father-to-be's side need to follow when the girl is pregnant

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2004-06-30

Name: damini
Subject:

these customs should be changed

hi,
i think customs like this to give gifts to everyone, i mean the girls parents giving gifts to the boys parents should be completely stopped.
and its us who can stop such things.
gifts should be exchanged but there should be any special expectation from girls parents that they only have to give the gifts.i mean it should be both sided.i feel ur parents should bring gifts 4 only and ur in laws too should give u gifts.i cant understand why girls parents have to give gifts to boys parents on every custom and they dont have to give them anything.hey girls its we, who can stop such customs in which importance is given to guys.both the girls parents n the guys parents should be equally treated and these old customs should be changed.
sorry, if i have become too senti about this issue...
but i have been struggling with this issue.my parents have done a lot for me and i m having a very good carrer at present but my parents are facing some business problems since few years and my in-laws keep on expecting things from them.this hurts me a lot.
anyways u enjoy ur pregnancy...i am also expecting.
damini

2004-07-21

Name: damini
Subject:

hi agreed

Hi Agreed,
i have tried a lot to explain my husband about it, but he is a mama boys and listens to only what his mother says...though ours is a love marriage and before marriage he used to say that he will do a lot for my parents...
do u know he has not been working since a long time more than 2 years and now i have purchased a house and he forced me that only his parents will come on house warming...these north indians have such mentality...my problem is that my husband understands only what his mother says...yesterday, he was indirectly saying me that generally parents of females hesitate to go to their daughters place...i was so angry...i didnt say him anything because that only ends up with fights which i dont want as i am 7 months pregnant...but i wanted to tell him back that i have purchased this house and my parents have more right to come...
i cant understand why are few customs and few people like that...
u can mail me at booxer999 at yahoo.co.in
damini

2004-07-16

Name: Agreed
Subject:

I completely agree with u

I completely agree with you. I am also facing the same issue. My mil always has a beautiful way of putting things in words.. and specially in north i have heard that the boys side keep taking stuff from the girls parents and dont give anything back. i am vehemently against this. i have a supporting husband, hopefully i shud be able to carry on this forever. have u tried speaking to ur husband abt it?

2004-05-10

Name: Sneha
Subject:

Babyshower

Hi,

As in every community northIndian also have the babyshoweror (\";goid bharaye\"; in hindi) in the 7th month. the girls parents brings gifts for their daughter. They also bring 5 types of fruits and sweets.( this should be places in the mother-to.be's pallu or goidi)
In-laws also give gifts to their daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law makes kheer or sweet rice that will be fed to the mother-to-be by 5 girls. Eachone has to give 5spoonsfull.
This is just the basic you can elaborate and have a grand funtion.
one more thing... for this ceremony mother-to-be wears a saree or any other dress which is given to her by her mother.

2004-05-16

Name: Sneha
Subject:

gifts

The gifts are for mother to be and not for In-laws. But it depends on one's wish if one want to give gift to every one why not?

2004-05-15

Name: Customs
Subject:

North Indian Customs

Hey, Thanks a lot. What i also want to know is whether during the 7th month, the girls parents need to send loads of sari's to the guys mothers side??

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