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The same usual old stuff about in-laws...they can never accept a bahu fully..and to top it of with a divorced sis-in-law who throws tantrums and my hubby gets emotional over his poor , lonely, divorced sister!!

SIl is divorced, is very bad at keeping relationships but nobody in the family ever realises that it could be her fault. Always the other (poor) person is blamed and the incident conveniently forgotten.
I have suggested to dear hubby a lot many times to get her remarried but of no avail as she wants to 'choose' her life partner herself this time. She dates single men, who have some fun but then don't get serious about a divorced girl.

She is intruding and easily shows her discomfort, complains if special attention is not paid to her.

How can I get the witch out of my way and life???? Friend replied. Hi Stressed -

I agree with Jenny, blood is blood and you really can not change your husband into seeing something he doesn't want to see. She is after all his little sister who has been through alot so he will take care of her, it is his duty.

She sounds immature but she is obviously jealous of your relationship or regretting her decision about divorce or lonely. Sympathize with her, give her support. If she wants to choose her own husband and that is her right and you should leave it be. If you want to help then take her to party's to meet eligible men. Make a little extra effort on your part, have a girls day out, go to the movies etc. Spend time with her, she may not be a witch or if she is well then leave her alone.

But she is your SIL and you can not get rid of her. jenny replied. You know we all are close to our own blood and flesh and i think we should be a little compromising and sensitive to what others have been thru. surely, it could be sil's fault but you being a woman yourself should be sensitive to that. it takes two to tango, they say so we cant completely blame your sil for her actions. its natural for her to feel jealous since she is seeing you and your hubby having a happy married life. try being her friend and kill her with kindness. see how it works! keep me posted. take care.