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Good to see you back. I really need a friend right now to talk to. Yesturday i talked to my gynec & told her that as discussed earlier we want to take a break.so she adviced that try one more time & than take a break bcs in any case i don' t advise anyone to go thru this in summer months so u will have to take a break untill july. that made me thinking. than i discussed with my dh & he said if medicnes r stressing you out, lets talk to doc & do it without medicine. do ovulation study, try naturally as weel as IUI. I said ok let me think about it. but i also told him that before few months i had decided in my mind that i will stop all the treatment on 1st feb when we finish 10 yrs of marriage. and will start exploring adoption option. he has no problem with that but he got upset on me saying that u did not tell me this earlier & u always this take this type of decision on your own without discussing, like to go to gynec & start the treatment also you did it & u r again doing it now. so i said ok lets do it as per your thinking but he is so upset with me that he is saying no. stik to your decision but next time for anyother decision don' t repeat it. i agreed it was my mistake.
I get very disturbed when he gets upset with me over something, and feel like talking to a friend but can' t do that with local friends.
i am feling releived now after writng to u about it. try to come on masanger sometime to chat.
Love
Dd Dd replied. Hi all,

this month i didn' t ovulate properly. None of the folicle reached to mature size & regress before hand so can not do IUI or any thing this time. I am alos dignosed with polysytic overies syndrome so has started metformin & also some aurvedic medications. so i will take complete break for some time & see how things go from here.

I may not comunicate much in near future as i want to give myself a break & the thought of baby for some time.
But would like to keep in touch once in a while. Tryingtobepositive replied. Hi Dd,

I have been reading your posts for some time.I am a silent reader most of the time.I was very active in the boards from June to Oct-Nov but mostly in the miscarriage section.Anyway,I know what you are going through as I myself have gone through fertility treatment.It can be emotionally draining on both you and your husband.It is really important to try to relax.I know its easier said than done.Anyway,I think it is a good idea for you to take a break.SOmetimes, a break is all you need.I wish you all the best for this cycle and hope things will work out.

Take care. rose replied. hello,

i have read ur massages,n felt very sorry,but dont always there z a hope for the good,i dont know whether this is gonna help u guys,but i think there z no harm in trying out,even i was suffering from same promblem until my granny gave the solution,she gave me some natural remedy for this promblem and today iam blessed with twins boys,i hope this will works out for u also.wat u have to do z when u get ur periods that z from the frist to last day of ur period u need to take 2 eggs (raw) in one glass of milk every day morning (empty stomuch)and at night,by this wat happen z ur stomuch will get cleaned and it improves ur quality of hormones and utres,with me i had taken this for almost 3 months and in 4th month i was naturally concived.y dont u guys try this,u never now sometimes smalls also works.

god bless
happy baby dust Dd replied. Hi Ruvi,
Nice to hear from u again. i am very happy for u & best of luck with progress in adoption procedure. keep us informed. I haven´ t chat with dv for a long time. I was busy before & she seems busy now. i will keep my masanger on whenever i am in offcie, so hope i will catch up with u soon.

Hi all,
Just update on my situation. As mentioned in reply to semi last week was very disturbing emotionally. my dh wanted to take me out for dinner for aniversary bt couldn´ t get the mind to ready to go. Sunday was my brother´ s weeding aniversary(he got married just 2 days after me) so he asked us to join thme for a movie but we both were working in office to catch up on last 3 days work. In the evening he called again & asked us to join him for dinner which we did. At night my dh was back in his happy attitude & asked me if i am ready to go to gynec for 1last try of iui without medication as we had discussed earlier & i agreed, so we went to gynec yesturday & started ovulation sonography. I am not taking any stimulative medicine this time but am continuing my dad´ s aurvedic medicine untill the dose i have finishes. My dh is going overseas on 27th feb for a month so little worried of staying alone.

Hi dv,
What´ s up with u. do write.

Love to all
Dd ruvi replied. Hi girls.........wtas up??? sorry for not messaging from a long time. Juss a lil busy wid work n also wid relatives literally pouring at my place. Dd...read ur message. dun get disheartened babe...take it easy.
One gud news I wanna share wid oyu people....at last we' ve submitted papers for adoption. I' m feeling much relaxed now as it all those long hours of discussion n introspection are nw subsided.
tell me wen you guys are online. I' ll try to be online as well.
praying for all of us.......may god give us LOTS OF BABY DUSTS.
love Dd replied. Your post is comferting. i do agree with your views & trying to do the same. things r ok between us.
Yesturday my dh' s masi' s mil died. we had gone to see her in hospital dy before yesturday. we r very close to masi & her family. so her daughter' s stayed at my place yesturday & today morning they took her mil for funeral. today is our 10th weeding aniversary. in the middle of all this my dh wished me but i could not get the courage to wish him. my grandma died just 12 days before my weeding. she was bedridden for 3 months due to accident, i was taking care of her & she was recovering & suddenely one day she died, i was there to her side at the time. & we also had to keep her body at home overnight before funeral so whenever i see any lady of that age dying i go numb. i can' t express anything & my dh understands it very well so always comforts me more in this type of situations.
I am also having some problem at work today for that i have come to office at midday after that funeral was over but am not able to concentrate, so just waiting for client' s call & than will go home to take rest. evening there is gitapath so i will go there.

yestuday i had collected some nos of orphanges in the city & we were to go there today to see the place & donate something. i had told my dh i didn' t want to party & then this happened so we will go there sometime next week after we r bit more relaxed.
How is life treating u this days?
this board is good place to share feelings. semi replied. Hi dd
Please don' t feel bad or dishearted. Husband also go through this ups and down of fertility pain and all sort of treatment along with us. The thing is that they don' t express much , where as we do talk and express all. They are man and more egoest and fell hurt if we don' t take them in confidence for any matter. this is just male mentality. I think he will cool down soon. it happens. I had several this kind of bad experience from my husband too while going through all treatment. I remember couple of dr' s visit when he denied to come alone with me saying \" you are obssesed for having a kid\" , do what you want to do. I don' t care\" kind of attitude.. next time ensure that you do talk to him for any thing. no matter how small that is. Take a break if you want to. We need to leave few things on god thinking that we are his child and he needs to take care of us , whichever way he wants to. than our worry become his worry. Try to enjoy the life without thinking too much about kids . We need to get best out of our life in a way what we have gotten in our life. Do n' t associated happiness with kids or anything else. happiness is just a attitude which does not require any kind of pre condition or association.
take care
semi