dear all,
i just want to tell you all people about my friend. after three years of marraige she got pregnancy that too an ectopic. she was operated as the tube was ruptured inside. and it was a dangerous situation to any body' s life. but you know i was amazed that she never felt sad and she is used to be so positive that she said ok, gone is gone - i am having the second tube. and she took a gap of one year and again she tried to conceive. bad luck, there was an ectopic pregnancy again. this time as she was in complete doctors supervision, she was operated again in early stages but doctors removed the whole tube again. we are friends from class 8. and i know her very much that she is not having any single complication before the marriage nor after the marriage. and her husband is also a very healthy guy, both are having no problems at all. that much i know them personally.

i know how sad it will be after a misscarriage. but dont think about to take any extreme steps.i' ve seen so many messages of depressed women on this board. these all are passing clouds. after seeing my friend' s experience i am very much proud of her that she continued her life as nothing happened and they adopted a child and they are leading a wonderful and joyful life now.
so my sincere advise to all who had misscarriages - please dont feel depresed and this is not the end of the life at all. take it in a positive way and be positive and think positive. good luck to all. abcd replied. hi,

well its really sad to know what your friend had to face.well its all matter of destiny.

see lizzy point is not that after loosing we cannot think of another child or we will not have good times ahead.The thing is when women keeps a child in her womb from that time only she gets so much attached to the child the loosing a baby is heartbreaking and extremly painful.

its good to think positive and move ahead in life but until our sorrows are there in our minds we will always belive in god.
sometimes i feel god gives us sorrows and grief so that we always remember him and know that their is a supreme power above which has control of everything.man is such an animal that if given everything will forget about others and even forget god.so everyone in this world has some pain or some problem big or small that varies.

anyways thanks for giving us positive thinking advises.good to know your friend is happy now. sudha replied. it was really painful what ur friend through and i do appreciate her courage
but i donot approve your way of saying \" passing clouds\" other than a mother who has lost a child will never feel hoe extreme the loss is ..a frank question had u ever had a loss but yes i had lost my 1st daughter at 33 weeks can u imagine how hopes shatter no u can never understand ... can i ever let this incident let go off like \" passing clous\" no... time will lessen the pain but no mothet who had a loss at this stage will ever be able to say what is gone is gone
i would request u to please choose ur words correctly in this forum here everyone is grieving a loss at some point of pregnency ..some hasve conceived some has not
where u cannot understand the degree of pain please donot comment it is a very sensitive area
can u understand my pain i will be celebrating my daughters 1st b day without a laughing and kicking baby only some memories and a bleeding heart
so pls restarin ur self befor u use words like \" passing clouds\" and \" what is gone is gone\" ... we angel mommies cannot do so...
if i have hurt any of ur comments pls forgive