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Miscarriage and Child Loss:Dear Sudha
2007-09-25
Name: lizzi



I am so sorry if i' ve hurted your feelings. just now i saw your message.
see, my intention is not to hurt any one who is suffering. as a losing mother of a children in an accident when he is returning to home after his school - i can understand what will be the pain is. i know it very well and i suffered a lot. and i pray to god even my enemies(if there are) should not face that torturing situation.
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2007-09-26
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Anonymous Name: K.Radha
Subject:  making myself unpopular



Hey Lizzie,

It was nice of you to post your friends story and share it. Don' t go feeling too badly that one or two people have taken offence. After child loss we all have our sore spots and it doesn' t take much let alone anything intentional to bring on a little pain...

A lot of us struggle to have our loss recognised and this is where most of the upset comes from. One or two things that you said inadvertantly hinted that our losses are no more than a summer storm and nothing could be further from the truth. An amputation is a far better example... Lizzie I see the point you were making and aside from the odd choice of words, it was a good post.

I am really going to ruffle a few feathers here and I am risking some nasty replies but um, I am personally disturbed because of the replies you received. Naming NO names there are people here who like to differenciant between early and late loss, negating the firsts emotional impact. So yeah, I find the HYPOCRISY really unsettling!
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2007-09-25
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Anonymous Name: sudha
Subject:  hi lizzi



i very well understand that ur intentions were good but i got hurt by the usage of ur words ... it was so heartning to hear u lost ur children in an accident though Rishona dinot see the daylight .. i feel ur pain too ..a loss is a los may it b 33 weeks ... 33 yrs or ... 3 yrs ..i losy my father when he was 46 and at that time his parents were alive do u think my grannys pain was something less ..may be we cant even imagine what she went through ...
but as i said in this forum everyone is grieving a loss so we are just look out for support some have their wounds still raw ..so saying thing s like forget it ... things will be ok ..will make them more sad.. we all know things will never be \" ok\" .. but we move on ... will i ever forget Rishona may b not even after death
share ur grief and u will see so many has gone through the same ..and everine will come out with their though
keep in touch god bless u
sudha
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